I recently read an article that discussed the four year itch in a marriage. While most of us have heard of the seven year itch, apparently we are getting sick of each other even quicker nowadays. With so much sex on our television and on every billboard in every major city, it is a wonder. There is so much more competition and so many more ideas that will go in your man’s head. Paired with the inevitability of every man’s dreaded mid-life crisis, a woman has to take strides to assure their man buys a new sports car, instead of running around with his secretary. Here’s some tips to turn up the heat!
Let’s start off with a small addition to your daily grind, date night. We hear about this a lot on almost every website dedicated to married couples, for good reason. The fact is, we have to make time for our significant other, even when we may not have time for ourselves. Life gets hectic, but that is no excuse to let the sex life go to the wayside.
Kids are a big part of the problem when it comes to having a spontaneous sex life. Some women find it hard to feel sexy after changing diapers and catching spit up on their clothes. Trust me, I get it. I had three and it does take effort to get in the mood.
So what can you do? Well date night of course! Some couples have the opportunity to do a weekly occasion, however a lot of parents will find that impossible, especially with finding a babysitter for a young child. Once you get the date night, don’t just go out to eat, go on an adventure. Take your man to a hotel in town; sex in a different place can add a level of mystique that you won’ get in your own bedroom. You could also try a movie which gives you an opportunity for some heavy petting, which could lead to a make out session in your car. You can both feel like teenagers again. A drive-in movie is hard to find, but really a great date night locale. Go pitch a tent in woods, or take a hike in your area. Find stuff that you and your mate love to do and hopefully provides enough privacy and opportunity for some much needed attention. If you can’t finish on site, you can always go home.
Role playing is a great way to add a little fantasy into your sex life. We all have many fantasies, so why not share them with your partner and make them happen. Instead of feeling embarrassed, you need to make a no-judgment zone where both parties can express themselves honestly. While one or the other might not like all the fantasies, it is better to do them together.
My husband made some of my fantasies come true and one in particular became a favorite of ours. Sometimes when I got home from work, he would meet me outside with his police uniform and pretend he was pulling me over. A frisking would ensue and it was quickly graduated to full out porn before I hit the door. This was the best way to end a day at work.
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When the effort of the above can’t be made, sometimes you have to play into the type of person you are dealing with. Men are in a way a lot easier to satisfy, as long as you know how they get turned on. Most are visual and if you don’t have time to put on a sexy school girl act, you can put on the outfit and that should be heat things up. Let them walk in on you pleasuring yourself with a new toy, in a hot new teddy, well ladies, he is yours.
So ladies, what do you do to spice it up in your bedroom?