Comments on: Can Men And Women Be Friends?

By: Bob

Bob — Tue, 08 Jun 2010 21:50:53 +0000

Hmm… well I have never cheated on anyone i was with and always had female friends. In those times between relationships I was hormonally charged and resisted putting that wedge in any of the friendships. Now the But. But I would have friendship fucked a couple of them if they had approached me. strictly to help out and for no other reasons. Those few would be because the relationship could handle it at face value, helping out.

By: Penny

Penny — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 23:17:03 +0000

I have also always been a tomboy, having grown up with two older brothers. I had a male best friend as a kid, another very close male childhood friend and another one during my last years of high school. We are all still good friends. Over the years, I’ve slept with all three of them. I love them dearly and would do anything for them, especially for my two oldest friends. It never felt weird afterwards and sharing the “secret” (usually at least one of us was in a relationship at the time) made us grow closer together. I’ve been having an affair with one of them for more than 2 years now. I just hope that we will still be close friends when it is over. Actually, I think I prefer having sex with men I can totally trust, even if I’m not “in love” them.

By: Ellie

Ellie — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 17:39:14 +0000

I think it’s a lot harder to be ‘just friends’ when you’re a teenager, because…well. hormones. maybe it’s easier for grown ups?
oh, and being british, i can confirm that a tea cosy is something that you put on a teapot to keep the tea hot. my nan makes them, with those awesome bobbles on top

By: MamaSkates

MamaSkates — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 14:58:38 +0000

mos def…i agree with ur guidelines totally!

By: Joanna

Joanna — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 14:01:39 +0000

Now that I’m married I have a whole different vision of male/female friendship than I did when I was younger and single and thought every guy friend really did just want my friendship and did not want to bump uglies. I had tons of male friends back then, until I realized that several of them, in fact, did want to get into my proverbial pants, and thus our friendships ended when they discovered they had no chance. Now all of my guy friends are half of a married couple. But I don’t miss the other guy friends and all of the inuendo. Getting old sometimes is all it’s cracked up to be.

By: CP

CP — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 12:03:18 +0000

yes, it is possible.

however, statistically speaking it is an unstable condition that is likely to change.

it sounds really sappy and shit but my wife is my best friend… she is ALWAYS there and willing to put her stuff on hold to back me up no matter what.

loyalty is big with me.

By: GingerB

GingerB — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 07:22:29 +0000

Hey, this made me think, and all that. I have had a variety of male friends through the years but I haven’t keep them for the long term. Why? Am I a sucky friend? Do I put up less with the ups and downs in a friendshsip like I will with a girlfriend? Why? Hey, this adult shit is wierd.

By: swirl girl

swirl girl — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 04:29:32 +0000

Quite frankly, I like most men better than I like most women. It took an awfully long time to figure it out – though.
I married my best friend. We were best of friends before either of us realized that we were meant to be (if that is even a real concept).

By: Mel

Mel — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 04:21:02 +0000

I think, in theory, yes. However, feelings have a funny way of appearing, out of nowhere.

I suppose I should mention, my best friend (male) from high school and I have been married for over 5 years. After 4 years of being strictly platonic, talking for hours about our relationships and spending all our free time together, something just appeared. I was with someone else but knew that it didn’t feel right. (Yada, yada, yada, we’ve been together for nearly a decade, and I think our relationship is still strong, because of the friendship it was based on.)

By: ScienceGeek

ScienceGeek — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 04:03:22 +0000

I’ve been best friend with a man since we were about 5. I thought we’d never let our hormones get the better of us, until I was cleaning out my old dresser and found, under that scented paper stuff (and does that even work?), where I’d clearly hidden it some long ago time, a note between us.
There were the words ‘will you go out with me?’
And tick boxes.
Yes, tick boxes.

Memories excavated by this note, I vaguely recall that question never being answered because his mum took him home. We’re both 30 now, and, well, put it this way – he recently developed an interest in a woman who had the same nickname as I did, and it was immediately decided that her nickname would have to change. Conversation went something like Me: you yell my nickname in bed with her, and I’ll never speak to you again. Him: You kidding? I do that, and my boner will die. That’s too much like incest, man!

And in my experience, women who freak out over a female best friend are, well, they’re often the kind of women who’ve probably never been friends with a man themselves, and the only female friends are the ones they’ve decided could never be competition.