Female Ejaculation 101

waveI used to have a fish named Squirt. He was a pretty little fellow whose genus name of Betta was much more befitting of his elegant flowing fins and luminous shades of red than was his nickname of Siamese fighting fish. But when it got down to the nitty gritty, Squirt was the epitome of his nickname and knew how to pose a challenge-much like a g-spot orgasm does. But in my experience, that is a squirt worth fighting for, and one that no woman should miss, so welcome to toywithme.com’s step-by-step guide to female ejaculation! Yay!

I will make no assumptions of what you do or do not know about female orgasms, so let’s start with the basics. A woman’s body is equipped to produce two types of orgasms: clitoral and g-spot. Since type A already gets loads of attention, we’ll skip to the latter: the big O a la gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg. (Huh?!). What’s the matter? Does that not sound sexy? Sorry, history is realistic to a fault, and the g-spot legacy is rightfully Dr. G’s, but it’s somewhat fitting that the elusive and unbridled “other” type of orgasm is named after a German … you know they can be hot-blooded and fiery!

The g-spot orgasm is believed to take place when a female ejaculates a clear fluid from her urethra and sometimes literally squirts. Science tells us that although some women feel a slight urge to tinkle just before a g-spot orgasm, female ejaculate is not urine, but an alkaline liquid with the sugars glucose and fructose and an enzyme resembling the prostate fluid within male ejaculate. I for one like the implications this holds … an evening up of the power play, if you will. But since, unlike men, women can pee and squirt simultaneously, it’s wise to stop at the water closet en route to bed.

G-spot jizz is thinner than vaginal lubrication or the fluid of a clit orgasm. Some naysayers claim that both the g-spot and female ejaculation are myths, but let me step off my unbiased science box briefly to reiterate that my personal experience says the naysayers are full of crap! OK, where was I? In the past, female ejaculation was shunned as shameful and embarrassing and frowned upon by one’s partner. But sometimes in this crazy world, common sense prevails, and modern day partners now boast skillful performance when they induce The Big [G] O in their playmate.

So what is the big freaking deal about a g-spot orgasm, and how do you find out for yourself? I’ll make like you’re the giver, but feel absolutely free to find a willing assistant and put yourself in the receiver position. Step 1, of course, is putting your finger on the g-spot. Put away your GPS tracker … locating this little oasis can be a fairly simple task (this is not to say that making it squirt can too, but you may very well find the effort worthwhile). Nestled about one to three inches up the vagina, on the anterior wall (belly side), is a slightly rough area, similar to the roof of your mouth.

g-spotAfter some scintillating foreplay that has the patient nice and wet (naturally or with lubricant), turn your hand palm-up and insert a finger. Rotate. Caress. Maybe add digit #2. With palm still up, curve your fingers toward you and feel for the g-spot. Bingo! Time to stimulate. Softly add pressure and then release it. Stroke the g-spot, move your fingers in a circular motion, vary your techniques according to her verbal response (and decibel level of pleasure moans) and encourage her to relax and release.

The sensation of ejaculation can be different for each woman, so I won’t presume to know how it will feel to you. But one commonality among the female majority is a definitively different feeling between the g-spot orgasm and its clitoral cousin. The contractions are usually more powerful, and the movements are unexpected and uncontrolled. If you know a super control freak, get her to squirt, she may be cured!

Toys, toys, toys. There is a veritable feast of play things out there made specifically to bring on female ejaculation. I’ve tried them. They are awesome. They do all the work! The delight of G-spot orgasm toys is two-fold: for female ejaculation newcomers who want their first flight to be solo, and for veterans who enjoy toys with company or without.

I am thrilled to report that I can personally recommend the g-spot vibrators LELO Gigi, Vibratex Pearl Rabbit, and the amazing Fun Factory Delight; and g-spot dildos njoy Pure Wand and Fun Factory Curve. These little treats know just where to go and just what to do, and in a world that can frequently disappoint, they are a virtually foolproof path to your g-spot objective!

While female ejaculation is still under scrutiny from the medical and scientific communities, I believe with all my heart (and other places) that all women are capable and deserving of realizing this incredible source of pleasure. May the force be with you!

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  1. in regards to squirting. If you only managed to squirt one time in your life so far, would squirting to you be considered the best sex you have ever had or is it just the best feeling you ever had.

  2. Iv never had the pleasure of a gspot orgasm iv tried but it hasn’t happend could I b doing something wrong

  3. Mum To Be says:

    Is Squirting acceptable if I am pregnant ?

  4. I agree with everyone. I love being a squirter. I can even do it to myself now!!

  5. slipperywenwet says:

    I had no idea i was a squirter until I almost got my mate in the eye. This is the best thing that can happen to a woman.

  6. I seriously thought I’d peed myself the first time I Came Hard from the g-spot. Then I figured out I could make it happen again…and again…and again!

    I have a few female friends who claim to be too uptight to orgasm “regularly” let alone squirt…I say, relax and enjoy for pity sake!

  7. My wife gets all wild she loves it, the past 2 times she had it twice one after the other and she just loves it and thanks to you it has become much easier to get it done

  8. minerva says:

    I’m a lucky one,I have the capacity of squirt more than twice in one sexual act.

  9. This is awsome now ii could have longer sex with my girl friend thanx

  10. I’ve gotten close, but it hasn’t happened yet. I’m still workin’ on it 😉 Great article, kept me entertained and informed from beginning to end. Next time I update my site I’d love to link you to my blogroll.

  11. Does this mean she will have the urge to urinate and she should just let go? My wife orgasms easily enough but I never get her to ejaculate? What should I tell her to expect?

  12. I’ve never experienced a female ejaculation yet. I’m one of those control freaks who won’t let myself get there. Maybe I should get my gf to take me there, and not stop when I tell her too.

    I’ll try this weekend. And report back.

  13. Mysty, I think that is key. You have to just give in and let it happen. Good Luck!

  14. DominaDoll says:

    Really cute analogy about the Betta. Great article. Glad I found your site. There are so few gems among those hidden within the blogosphere, it was nice to find yours! Thanks :)

  15. I thought something was wrong with me when this first happened. Know I know just how lucky I am . :)


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