Many of us know or are in a relationship with a man who not only refuses to consider enhancing his personal sexual experience with sex toys, he doesn’t even care to talk about it. But male inhibitions about sex play with toys are rife with the stoicism of generations gone by, and getting him to let down his guard can let in some new fun for both partners.
There exists an understandable misconception that sex toys are really just made and intended for women. After all, the world’s first toy was the dildo, primitively imitating the penis and created primarily as a penile substitute for vaginal play. As many a wise and fortunate man has discovered since the dawning of sex toys, however, there are more scintillating stops on the map of sensuality than just Vagina Junction.
But what of their unfortunate counterparts? A straight man’s freedom of personal sexual expression through today’s incredible “toys for boys too” collection of smart and goal-oriented designs may fall victim to society’s lingering derogatory attitude toward homosexuality. The automatic connection made by many between sexual orientation and a man simply enjoying anal stimulation is actually a gross disconnect, one that leads a man who has been negatively influenced by homophobic parents, teachers, church goers, friends or colleagues to simply forbid himself to experiment with one of the body’s most sensitive pleasure zones.
For the curious man who molts his programmed wariness and flirts with bending the boundaries that have ascended around him, there are many rewards on the other side. Freeing his body and mind to realize their erotic potential can lead a man to discover the many magnificent sensations of uninhibited sexual play. Today’s innovative designs are tailored to treat him gently and lead him oh so accurately toward his goal. Solo or with a partner, he can start with a little touch, a little tickle, a gradual procession to pleasure as he charts the waters and wades into a broadened and spectacular comfort zone.
To some men, the jackpot at the end of the anal rainbow is a p-spot orgasm. The male counterpart to the g-spot, the p-spot is a pleasure oasis whose existence, location and dynamic potential is perhaps little known to the masses, but can be a jubilant discovery indeed for the man who ventures forth. Located in the lower rectum, it is part of the prostate gland, a bundle of muscle, nerves, blood vessels and fat mixed with the cells responsible for most of semen’s production. The p-spot is where all of the prostate gland’s nerve endings meet, so you can imagine that stimulating it can prove to be intense and rewarding indeed.
Besides finding the perfect toy that helps him realize his maximum pleasure potential, the only other thing on his anal play to-do list is an awareness of hygiene. He can read a toy’s instructions regarding recommended condom and lubricant use with certain toy materials. If you’re playing together and a rubber isn’t in the mix, he should not share the toy without cleaning it in between partners. With his checklist checked, his evolution toward the height of erotic euphoria can be unleashed.
Of course, there are many more gadgets in the boy toy chest than just those designed for a booty call. Today’s toy and accessory makers go to great lengths to create a toy for every level of adventure. Couple play can include a feather tickler, sexy restraints, scented and lickable massage oils, and a vibrator moonlighting as a massager that awakens untraditional erogenous zones. It can start its gentle journey with a face massage, then meander down to his chest, slowly circling his nipples, then caress his arms, titillate his hand and foot muscles, and take its time teasing his sensitive groin muscles, most assuredly bringing him to full mast. One of the ultimate couple toys is the We-Vibe (see my review), a his and hers hands-free vibrator worn by the woman that stimulates the north side of the penis during intercourse.
Let’s just face it, the whole body is one big erogenous zone, and when a man is able to shed the psychological baggage inflicted upon him by other people’s judgmental ignorance, he is free to celebrate the physical attributes that can bring him unbridled pleasure … regardless of where on, or in, his body he may find it.
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Great article! I have known men on both ends of the spectrum. Those who were open to anal play, and others who weren’t comfortable with even trying, so I do think it has a lot to do with the heterosexual society’s view of sex, meaning that penetration of any kind should simply be for “women only”. Which I wholeheartedly disagree with, as do you. Very good write-up!
The Tenga range of men’s (non anal, but better than a standard ‘masturbator’ toy) toys are fantastic – beautifully designed and feel fantastic.
http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/s.cfm?term=tenga LoveHoney have a great selection of their range, and I think most of the US sites carry Tenga products too.
I agree! More men should be open to things and not so hung up on what society teaches (in all sorts of areas, not just sex – but that’s a whole other can of worms).
I agree! I’ll have to show this to my boyfriend!
Agreed, people who shy away from anal play are missing out. So many sensations!