Who we are

Hi, I’m Jenna.  I’m the owner and main blogger for ToyWithMe.  I love spending my time working on my blogs, hanging out at home in sunny California, and traveling.

As I moved into a new phase of my life after 50, I have really shaken up my life.  After 15 years of married life, I kicked the stagnant boring marriage to the curb and became single  and started dating.   I was passed menopause, I embraced my freedom, and I became enlightened in my own new found sexual revolution.  I’ve learned a lot in my new found freedom in the life of a single.  I now proudly wear my labels.  I’m a member of the “Lifestyle”.  I identify as a swinger, bisexual, BDSM lover, poly, and sex-positive.

I love sharing my explorations about life, my liberation of discovery into the world of sexuality, sex play and adventure, and of course, I’m always excited to share what I have added to my toy chest!



I’m excited to introduce our bloggers!

Hi, my name is Jennifer and I am happy to be one of the newest bloggers here on ToyWithMe.

I am a thirty-year-old, happily divorced single mom.  I have been single for a couple of years now, with a few months of relationships that didn’t pan out.  So now I am enjoying the single life and working on another passion, writing.  I currently ghostwrite E-books of an erotic nature, write articles for a content site and now blogging on this great site.

I look forward to sharing my experiences with you, as well as learning a thing or two from you.



Roxy Rules is a professional writer, editor and adult sexuality educator. She’s the bottom half of a kinky, married couple living their dream life in Baltimore. Roxy’s erotica has been featured on Bondage.com, Oysters and Chocolate, and a variety of other online and print venues. Together with her husband, she presents nationwide on topics like sensual bondage, communication and negotiation, polyamorous relationships, and anal play for women. They’ve had the honor of presenting their unique, no-dogma version of kinky sexuality at a wide range of venues, including Black Rose, Camp Crucible, Bondage Club Baltimore, FetFest, AIS Winter Wickedness, Bound in Boston, and Shibaricon.

Roxy is a confirmed fashionista, lover of high heels and fetish wear, alternative community advocate, and an award-winning cook.

Follow Roxy on social media at: Twitter – @HammerAndRoxy, Facebook – Hammer N Roxy



Kait Scalisi, MPH wants to live in a world where sex is no longer a dirty word and everyone gets the pleasure they desire and deserve.

As a sex educator, she’s been featured on About Relationships, Brides.com, SimplySxy, Sex Gets Real, Xbiz, and Medical Daily. She has led workshops at Johns Hopkins School of Medicine, Yale School of Public Health, and Emory University.

When she’s not reading, writing, and teaching about sexual health and pleasure, you can find her getting her om on at restorative yoga, wandering the North Woods of Central Park, and touring Manhattan’s coffee shops.

Her recently-released guide to female orgasm – Six Steps to Having the Orgasm You Desire – hit the internet on August 2014.

Discover how to find freedom in pleasure at PassionbyKait.com

~Kaitpassion by kait



Interested in writing for Toy With Me? We would love to have you grace our pages. Visit our submissions page for all the details.