Who we are

Hi, I’m Jenna.  I’m the owner here at  ToyWithMe.

As I moved into a new phase of my life after 50, I have really shaken up my life.  After 15 years of married life, I kicked the stagnant boring marriage to the curb and became single  and started dating.   I was passed menopause, I embraced my freedom, and I became enlightened in my own new found sexual revolution.  I’ve learned a lot in my new found freedom in the life of a single.  I now proudly wear my labels.  I’m a member of the “Lifestyle”.  I identify as a swinger, bisexual, BDSM lover, poly, and sex-positive.

I love sharing my explorations about life, my liberation of discovery into the world of sexuality, sex play and adventure, and of course, I’m always excited to share what I have added to my toy chest!



I’m excited to introduce our bloggers!

Introducing our newest blogger ~ On Overdrive

On Overdrive is a professional writer and editor, and if being kind of slutty counts, an amateur sexologist. She’s been writing erotic stories since college where she won a writing prize for one of them. Her writing has also been featured on the Kinky and Popular page of FetLife.  She’s given sex advice at a Mindshare event in Los Angeles, and she’s been doling out tips and tricks to her bored-in-the-bedroom married friends for years.  An experienced switch in the BDSM lifestyle, she has a particular interest in shibari.  When not pounding it out in the bedroom with her sweetie, she enjoys cooking, Zumba and going off on new adventures.



Hi, my name is Jennifer and I am happy to be one of the newest bloggers here on ToyWithMe.

I am a thirty-year-old, happily divorced single mom.  I have been single for a couple of years now, with a few months of relationships that didn’t pan out.  So now I am enjoying the single life and working on another passion, writing.  I currently ghostwrite E-books of an erotic nature, write articles for a content site and now blogging on this great site.

I look forward to sharing my experiences with you, as well as learning a thing or two from you.


Roxy Rules

Roxy Rules is a professional writer, editor and adult sexuality educator. She’s the bottom half of a kinky, married couple living their dream life in Baltimore. Roxy’s erotica has been featured on Bondage.com, Oysters and Chocolate, and a variety of other online and print venues. Together with her husband, she presents nationwide on topics like sensual bondage, communication and negotiation, polyamorous relationships, and anal play for women. They’ve had the honor of presenting their unique, no-dogma version of kinky sexuality at a wide range of venues, including Black Rose, Camp Crucible, Bondage Club Baltimore, FetFest, AIS Winter Wickedness, Bound in Boston, and Shibaricon.

Roxy is a confirmed fashionista, lover of high heels and fetish wear, alternative community advocate, and an award-winning cook.

Follow Roxy on social media at: Twitter – @HammerAndRoxy, Facebook – Hammer N Roxy


Kait at PassionbyKait

Kait Scalisi, MPH wants to live in a world where sex is no longer a dirty word and everyone gets the pleasure they desire and deserve.

As a sex educator, she’s been featured on About Relationships, Brides.com, SimplySxy, Sex Gets Real, Xbiz, and Medical Daily. She has led workshops at Johns Hopkins School of Medicine, Yale School of Public Health, and Emory University.

When she’s not reading, writing, and teaching about sexual health and pleasure, you can find her getting her om on at restorative yoga, wandering the North Woods of Central Park, and touring Manhattan’s coffee shops.

Her recently-released guide to female orgasm – Six Steps to Having the Orgasm You Desire – hit the internet on August 2014.

Discover how to find freedom in pleasure at PassionbyKait.com



Other Contributors

Over the years there have been many bloggers who have contributed to ToyWithMe. Unfortunately in the latest website rebuild, the authors on the posts are no longer credited.

We thank all who came before us to share their stories!


Interested in writing for Toy With Me? We would love to have you grace our pages. Visit our submissions page for all the details.