Comments on: What If We Had A First Date Rule?

By: CortGirl

CortGirl — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 14:34:27 +0000

My husband and I fucked a few hours after we’d met for the first time. We’d known each other for a while (about 2 months) having met online, so there had been plenty of phone calls, emails and chats in between. He offered to help me move into my new place and halfway through the day *WHAM* it was unbelievable! Five years later, things are still pretty awesome

By: CP

CP — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 13:16:16 +0000

i fucked my wife BEFORE the first date. in fact we hadn’t even met yet.

i’m that good.

By: Dee

Dee — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 00:47:17 +0000

I think sex on the first date is a natural reaction, that is drowned out by social norms that have really screwed up with Darwin’s natural selection. Instead, women are conditioned to evaluate men on the basis of what they have/earn, play mind games, and many settle for the better provider ‘on paper’, to end up with an alpha male that keels over and dies from stress or depression, but what about the rest? I’m interested to know how many women divorced their husbands after the global financial crisis.

By: Julie Roads

Julie Roads — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 23:43:52 +0000

Brilliant. Brilliant. And brilliant. I’m recently divorced and agree wholeheartedly. I don’t have time to screw around – and good sex is a must before I would consider a relationship.

Also – You are an amazing writer. Just so we’re clear.

By: pattypunker

pattypunker — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 23:37:36 +0000

i’m so with you on fuck! the phrase make love makes me gag. could you imagine “make love to me hard, baby” “make love to me silly” “make love my brains out” wtml!

and we pretty much know if we wanna fuck someone’s brains out on the first date, so why wait. maybe till the second if you get off on a little anticipation.

By: lizfits

lizfits — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 16:18:53 +0000

Excellent points! I love this post.

By: SkyddsDrake

SkyddsDrake — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 15:26:50 +0000

I had sex with my husband within hours of meeting him in person. Regardless of the fact that we had been chatting online for awhile before that, it was still much quicker than a younger me would have thought possible. (Waited until I was 23 to have sex, whatever that might tell you.) Best choice I have made, jumping in. Happily married, fully sated sexually.

By: Kelly Diels

Kelly Diels — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 02:17:34 +0000

I have to say I’m a little disappointed at the absolute absence of offers. Not one person has asked me out. I just publicly proclaimed my easiness…and nothing. Alas.

@Shannon – I think that says “passion”. We dismiss it as lust or butterflies but sometimes new connection runs deeper than we think.

@TC – I know a whole lot of married couples who started out as a one night stand. Good sex is the heartbeat of a relationship, and when you’ve got that, AND you like the person and want to hear what they have to say and look forward to breakfast…well now you’ve got something. The everydayness of love is hot.

@thedevilyousay – honey, I dismissed “intimate”, too. Feminists are fierce. mwah.

@WickedShawn – WELL SAID.

@Sam – I like it. Of course.

By: Shannon O | Confessions of a Loving Wife

Shannon O | Confessions of a Loving Wife — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 22:09:30 +0000

When I was single, I didn’t have a rule… and my time frame was longer than any listed in the MSN poll. But the interesting thing is… the guy I made wait for the least amount of time is the one I ended up marrying. I wonder what that implies.

I love the point made here: “What if sex on the first date was the rule? You’d get really picky about who you decide to go out with. No more wasting time on pity dates or I’m bored dates or don’t really wanna be here but hey, you’re buying dinner dates. The bar would be set high.”

The bar should be high and we should be picky no matter what our rule is, the concept of the first just gives us a reason to. Fabulous points made Kelly!

By: Sara LeeAnn

Sara LeeAnn — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 20:19:05 +0000

Cheers to the First Date Rule! Hilarious post.