Get Your Sexy Back! ~ Making Sex a Priority!

 

Welcome to Week 3 of Our 10 Week Journey designed to grab life by the ovaries and get back to enjoying The Sex!

ID-100124438This journey is filled with a variety of sexual advice and tips to get your sex life back on track, along with a healthy dose of snark and wit, because obviously. Our Master Sexologist Natalie will be covering an array of topics including Reconnecting With Your Partner, Peri-Menopause/Menopause, How To Spice It up and Finding Time For Sex. So climb aboard the bus to O-Town and let the journey begin!

QUICK!

Get out a pen and paper and write down the 5 most important things on your to do list today.

Got em?

Good.

Is SEX your #1 To Do item?

How about your 2nd or 3rd?

No? Maybe #4???

Not likely … in fact, I doubt you even put SEX on your to do list did ya?

Look, I know life can be insanely hectic but here’s the thing, if you DON’T put sex back on that list, with or without a partner, it’s not going to happen.

Now I could launch into this whole rant about the physical benefits of sex and the emotional boost it gives us. I could bore you to tears with facts and graphs. But what I really want you to get is:

WHEN YOU FEEL FUCKING FANTASTIC EVERYTHING ELSE IS GRAVY!

And that, Toy-With-Mes, is exactly what sex does! When you feel better, you make better choices and enjoy your daily life more. Admit it, we all know a miserable neighbor or co-worker and we secretly think, “Man she/he just needs to get laid!” It’s the TRUTH! Sex helps us not only physically to feel better, it improves our health, our skin, our brain function, regulates hormones and periods for women.

Face It ~ Sex Makes You a Happier Person!

No one wants to be the miserable friend, but we all want to be the perky girl who talks endlessly about how sextastic her dating/love life is and her amazing partner who practices their tricks and toe curling techniques with her on the daily. WE WANT TO BE HER! We want to have the sex she is having and damn it, we DESERVE TO!

Today, right now, put your vagina back on your priority list. And before you go all “I’m single and can’t get laid” on me, that’s no excuse. Masturbation has immeasurable value and there are thousands of toys that are sure to please you if you’re lacking a partner. So date yourself and add ‘do me’ to your list of priorities!

5 Tips To Make Sex a Priority

Date Night

Get out your smart-phone right now and schedule a date night! Your partner should be a priority in your life and if you have to schedule them in to make that happen then so be it. Date night not only sets the anticipation it also puts us in the “dating” frame of mind. Whether you choose to dress to the nines and go out dancing, share a meal at your favorite restaurant or just go catch the latest flick you’ve both been dying to see, the connection you create with time alone together is the perfect doorway to the bedroom once you’re home.

Keep The Connection

One date isn’t going to cut it. Make this an ongoing affair. Achieving the all mighty ‘O’ on a regular basis isn’t going to happen without a little foreplay. So smack that ass when your lover rushes out the door to work. Let them know how sexy they look on their way to picking up the weekly groceries. Play footies with them under the table during dinner. Hell, be eco-friendly and surprise them by joining in on their morning shower! None of these things add to your already hectic schedule but they do have the lasting impact of letting your partner know you’re thinking of them … and interested!

Make The First Move

Waiting around for something to happen is about as effective as watching paint dry. Nothing gets accomplished. When you want something in life you go after it, sex with your partner should be treated the same! Don’t wait around wondering why they’re never busting a move, they may be doing the same thing. If you want sex, go get it! Leave the guessing games to the kids. Put yourself out there and start having some mind-blowing sex instead.

Spice It Up

We prioritize things into two categories, must have’s and want to’s. The second list consists of things that excites us, make us feel good and leave us with the desire to have more. Too often sex gets put on the back burner because it becomes monotonous. Same time, same place and same unimaginative positions. Stop it! Predictability equals boredom, one thing no one wants in the bedroom. Get your creative juices flowing and inspire a night to remember. We have all fantasies, why not live one out?!

Just Do It!

We may not be totally in the mood for sex, but be open to it. Don’t automatically say no when you partner makes a move on you. Barring illness or medical conditions, you should be open to the possibility of having sex every single day of the year. Do you have any idea how happy you would be??

Life is about priorities and the sooner you put yourself and your vagina back on the priority list, the better off you will be. With or without a partner, the world needs more sex and I want YOU to be having it!

Your Challenge:

Have sex this week!! Not just your regular old bumping uglies before the kids come barging in sex! Nope, not this time. I want you to have a night of passion that knocks your socks off!  One where you end up sweaty and exhausted in a pile of tangled sheets. One where once finished you whisper … Oh. My. God. I’m pretty sure the neighbors could hear us … and I don’t give a damn! Trust me, you’ll be smiling like a Cheshire cat if you do.

Do Tell Toy With Mes …

Do you have sex as often as you would like? If not, what holds you back from doing so? Is sex on your ‘to do’ list? Will you add it to the list now?

**If you missed what Natalie’s journey is all about you can read it here.

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  1. Great post Natalie. I agree, you have to put sex on a to-do list. We definitely don’t have as much sex as I think either of us would like, but we need to make it more of a priority.

    • Natalie

      It’s so true! We make everything BUT sex a priority and then we wonder why we are so out of sync with our lover.
      Thanks for sharing my journey!

  2. Natalie

    I hear you LadyH1025!!

    Most days my list is a billion things long and SEX is no where near the list let alone ON the list.
    It’s tough when situations change and we have to figure it out all over again. I am jealous *in a good way* that you have the opportunity to have THAT kind of sex and if it’s hit a bit of a bump…I am going to guess that the bump will be gotten over and you get back to bumping….Thank you for sharing here with me and Toy With Me!

    • Hello again! So..yep..the man is back in town (work related travel for a day, I hated it!) And yep..It was bumpity bump quick status today when we saw each other. You’d think we were separated for weeks, lol. Overall, to get back to this weeks topic about making sex a priority.. It is so much a priority we don’t usually have to plan for it or realize after awhile that it’s been too long so we should. Besides working around the baby part, our intimate moments are spontaneous most days & on average, I’d say we get it on at least once a day, even if it’s not full blown intercourse. I am (him as well of course) the lucky recipient of daily orgasms and usually of both varieties.. He makes damn sure of that! (And yes..I am grateful and thankful each and every time.. Our sex life is not something I take for granted..ever.) We do like to play a lot whenever we are together but not alone. This is one of my all time favorite things..there’s always flirting, teasing touches, whispered scenarios with details of upcoming sexual acts that he or I are craving to give or receive. Whenever we are at a friend’s house, our play is more on the down low, but still can’t seem to get through a visit without enticing one another with ideas of the naughty kind. Many times one of us will que up one of our movies we have on the phone and casually hand it to the other who then all of a sudden needs to use the restroom lol. It was such a freaking turn on the first time J played that little game! He whispered “just hit play & enjoy”. Oh boy did I! It was so sexy seeing which video he chose for me and I had quite the nice O as quietly as possible. When I came out he told me that he now needed to get off himself because he spent those minutes knowing what I was watching and knowing what I was doing. He told me that my face said a thousand things and he hoped I enjoyed myself. So I played back and got a video ready for him. And yes oh yes..even though I just got off..knowing what was going on in that bathroom got me all worked up all over again! Sufficed to say, we didn’t stay very long and had an extremely pleasant evening once behind our own closed doors. So yep..it is an awesome, sensual, satisfying, exciting, and sometimes overwhelming sexual relationship and even after 10 years, we continue to explore new experiences in our sex play and because of that, our sex never gets boring or static.
      Wow..long reply!

  3. Hello again Natalie..great, direct question to pose to ensure anyone answering it has to really evaluate their actually sex life with their partner. On most given days I would be excited to discuss a bit about how often we have amazing sex..THAT kind of sex..but at the moment this topic is making me a bit sad because I miss the person who shares these awesome encounters with me. Tomorrow maybe..my old self..I shall share indeed.

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