Looking at those New Year’s Resolutions half way through


new years resolutionsIt’s almost half way through the year, which is the perfect time to talk about New Year’s resolutions. Why? ‘Cause I have already broken three of mine and I am fairly confident a number of you have done the same (come on, admit it, we’re amongst friends here, right?).

Resolutions are ways of correcting deficits we see in ourselves. They are our way of correcting our own perceived shortcomings. I say perceived because what is a shortcoming for us may be a strength to someone else. It’s all a matter or perspective and in that, there are no absolutes. Only what we want for ourselves. And for me, I really want these things.

Accidental Nakedness

My first was the standard health/gym/work out resolution. I have a membership and, in truth, I have been diligent about it over the last few years so it has become an easy resolution to keep. But Christmas, the cold weather and this huge, heaping helping of snow have kept me from it for the last little bit and I am starting to pine (yeah, I become a whining 12-year-old girl who lost her cell phone and her parents won’t buy her a new one). Of course, I fully intend to return (I like my body when I am in shape. It ain’t much, but if someone has to see me naked, accidentally or otherwise, I’d rather the raised eyebrow then the mad dash to the toilet) but, to date, it is an unfulfilled resolution.

Hitting Reset

The second was writing this column. The last few weeks have been super busy for me (and not in the good way) and I haven’t had the chance to write it (not that it takes long, but I like to be undisturbed when I allow a stream of consciousness to hit the page). There are a number of things I want to write about, including sexless marriages (can I get a Whop Whop), Bromances, Hall Passes (seriously, have ANY of you ever had one of those??), fetishes, lingerie (for guys, fellas, and don’t get your skivies in a knot) and Viagra (can I get a schwing schwing). I missed April so that, in my mind, qualifies as a broken resolution.

Get Your Ass In Gear

The third is to keep my eye on the prize. Simply put, this means stop getting sidetrack by every shiny bauble that comes my way (ohh, look, pretty lights …). I have a few projects I need to complete that I have put on hold until the timing was right. Well, it appears that time is now and I need to get off my ass (but the couch is so comfy and this is my favourite TV show) and get them done. Sure, I haven’t really ‘broken’ this one yet but I know I could put more effort into them then I am, hence my dismay.

What Comes Easy?!

But this is the truth for everything. Life requires an effort. It’s hard work. Nothing really comes easy (‘cept me … WHAT? TMI???). These aren’t clichés, they’re facts. A cold, hard reality that distinguishes the winners from the wannabes. Sure, you could kill yourself trying to accomplish a goal and still fall flat but I guarantee you, you will NEVER succeed without some degree of effort.

The worst part is, these are things that come easy to me. This is not an endeavor with which I have to struggle. Yes, there is still work involved, yes, there is still time to put in but it’s doing things I rather enjoy.

Get Lubed

I’m sure a lot of us are in the same boat. We all know what we want, where we want to be and what we need to do to get there. But we simply don’t do it. For me, it’s about regimenting my schedule. Right now, I haven’t one but once I do, I become a well oiled machine (lubed, if you prefer). I know me well enough.

The question is, how well do you know you? Can you fool yourself into thinking you can’t do whatever it is you need to do to succeed? Is it because you have no time? No resources? No energy? Not that these would be one’s only barriers, but they seem to be the most common. Indeed, one of the biggest hurdles is the lack of a starting point, at least for those with whom I have spoken.

Is Longer Easier?

My suggestion is always the same, it is like a road map (forgive me while I get all Mr. Miyagi on your ass). You know where you are and where you want to be, you need to do your research and find the different ways to get there. Some may be longer than others but who is to say the longer ways aren’t the easier ones? You’ll never know until you look into it.

Show Me The Money

Of course, setting realistic resolutions also helps. Getting a million dollars this year may be a bit out of reach. Not impossible, but you definitely will need far more effort and time to reach that goal then, say, one hundred thousand, or taking a trip or rippling abs. I guess my argument is, if you want something bad enough, you’ll do what it takes to get it.

Just Believe

Bottom line (for me anyways), resolutions are like your life; they are what YOU make them. The more you put into them, the more you get out of them. But you actually have to start, you have to put the time in and take it from a wonderfully spoken sentiment to an actual reality. In fact, it isn’t even about accomplishing the goal as much as the realization that you can do it, you are more capable than you ever thought. ‘Cause you are. How do I know? Simple, you’re human, and we humans have done so much in the past few millenniums, what makes you different? Nothing. Believe in yourself, you can do anything you try.

Do Tell Toy With Mes …

Have you kept your New Years Resolutions? Did you make any? What tips do you have to help me get my ass in gear?

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  1. Ron

    Nice post. most of the NEW Year Resolutions never last… I know i forgot mine lol.. I agree with the “setting realistic resolutions also helps” part..

    Its bound to fail unless your resolutions are not realistic 🙂

  2. John Carcosa

    I had a big list this year and I’m pleased to say that I’m on track for many of them especially the reading/writing ones. The fitness ones have taken a little bit of a hit but I’ve opted not to call those failures because then I’d stop completely. Fitness should probably always be in the ‘needs improvement’ category anyway.

    Good luck with yours.

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