Comments on: My Brand Of Feminism Includes Chivalry

By: Rossana

Rossana — Sun, 22 Apr 2012 00:27:07 +0000

I love good old fashioned chivalry and I also consider myself a feminist. I love it when men open doors. And all the warm fuzziness that chivalry gets you.

By: ken

ken — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 13:26:44 +0000

bullshit!

i let my wife cum first all the time.

like a true gentleman.

By: WhoCares

WhoCares — Sun, 04 Jul 2010 16:05:57 +0000

Chivalry is dead.

Feminism is to blame.

By: CatPS

CatPS — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 23:04:22 +0000

I LOVE chivalry! I think it can actually be quite empowering for a woman. I think women who do things like refuse to go through a door that is being held open for them may not be very confident in themselves or their standing relative to men.

My hubby still opens the car door for me. His brothers tease him about it, but he and I are very secure in our relationship and it’s just one of the ways that he shows me he enjoys being a caring, thoughtful spouse. (this also translates very nicely to the bedroom Heck, sometimes I’ll hold the door for him, and I am the designated spider-slayer in our household… it’s not about adhering to gender roles, it’s about a loving, caring gesture. And I personally find that makes me quite the strong woman!

By: Heather

Heather — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 19:50:12 +0000

My husband opens doors for me. However, I’m not sure if he does it to be nice, or because I refuse to grab the door. I’ll slow down so he’ll get to the door first and then he is forced to open it for me. I thank him, I’m not a total bitch! He opens my car door for me all the time, too. And, it’s not because I stand there like an idiot refusing to open the door myself. I guess he’s not so bad, after all.

Oh, and if i open the door for someone and they don’t thank me, you know the type- they pretend the door is automatic and refuse to acknowledge you- I yell “You’re welcome!!” behind them.

By: Zeo111

Zeo111 — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 12:57:24 +0000

In a world where holding the door for someone is a lost courtesy, it’s been a great icebreaker when I want to initiate conversation. Whether it’s a pretty girl, or the guy whose physics notes I want to borrow. :-p

By: cakemix

cakemix — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 09:30:03 +0000

i tend to open doors for anyone out of politeness and appreciate it when anyone does it for me regardless of gender…i don’t reckon chivalry is man-based as i love having the hot ladies taking care of me too…that’s it!

i am bichivalrous!!!!!

(sorry never seen the show as it’s not on over here, yet…)

By: MP

MP — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 07:41:18 +0000

I open doors because it is the polite thing to do. I’ve had times where I open the door for a woman and she will walk behind me, grab the door handle and wait until I go in.

By: lizfits

lizfits — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 01:43:21 +0000

I also love Millionaire Matchmaker and Patti’s fabulousness… I miss TV.

But for chivalry… eh. It’s not necessary. Don’t get me wrong! *Manners* and *being polite* and not being a douchebag are still very in. But I can open my own doors. I can pay for my own meals. What I can’t do? Cook. No, truly. A man can cook, and I don’t care if he makes me open the door for him. I am sold, because I am a worthless woman when we judge by Suzy Homemaker skills. I don’t have them.

Also, someone else said it, but when it’s *genuine* it’s very nice, like the nice boys who were just raised to do it and it’s a habit. When someone’s just trying to get some ass by being nice, it’s not being nice. When you stop being polite after I make it clear we’re not bumping uglies, you were never really being polite, and that IS chauvinism. Drives me nuts…

I’d rather have a man who can cook, though.

By: MsDarkstar

MsDarkstar — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 01:23:23 +0000

One of the things I have really noticed since I moved South was that the men here are much more chivalrous. I hold doors for people regardless of age/gender. I will also give up my seat on a bus for an elderly person (regardless of gender) and obviously pregnant women.

I once worked with a man who was from Alabama who called the ladies in the office “hon”. He wasn’t doing it to be condescending or a dick, it was only used with ladies he felt he had a rapport with and I was never insulted by it. A woman visiting the office heard him ask me to do something ( “Can you take care of that, hon?”) and FLIPPED OUT. (This is why feminists have a bad reputation…)

I enjoy chivalry when it is genuine and not forced or condescending.