If any of you lady Toy with Mes are like me, you have struggled with your libido from time to time. Having babies, dealing with the pressures of careers, family life, medical problems, financial issues, relationship woes, menopause, open genital sores, what have you, can make your libido go bye-bye thereby creating even more stress in an already fucked existence.
Don’t tell me it’s never happened.
And sometimes you just wish there was a pill to magically transform you from Frigid Farrah into Henrietta Humpsalot. After all, they have a magic pill for men, so why can’t the ladies have one too? It’s only fair!!
We’re on our own for now girls, but after thinking about it a little, I’m not sure that’s a bad thing. Check it:
Whilst perusing The New York Times the other day because I’m very smart and always on top of current events, I read that the German drug maker Boehringer Ingelheim announced last week that they are stopping their work on a pill to treat low libido in women, aka “female viagra” or “pink viagra.”
The drug containing a chemical called flibanserin–which was originally intended as an antidepressant, and was thought to perhaps help menopausal women suffering from what is referred to as “hypoactive sexual desire disorder” (or the broader term “female sexual dysfunction”)–went through clinical trials and was submitted to the FDA for approval, but was rejected because it has not been proven to increase the level of female sexual desire.
Although they could not prove that the pill could increase desire, it did seem to increase the number of what they call “sexually satisfying events.” The events, which didn’t necessarily include the big O, were more frequent in women who took the drug as compared to women who took a placebo or nothing at all. So, I guess all it did was make Sexy Time more fun and/or rewarding, but didn’t make people actually want it.
If that’s the case, then the shit was no good anyway–at least for me. My problem has always been getting the engine started. Once that happens, she be purrin’ like a kitten if you know what I’m saying. “Hard starts” are notoriously difficult to troubleshoot, according to my husband. It’s a frequency thing, not a quality thing with me.
But don’t cry tears of woe just yet, my horny-wannabes.
The fact that one German company dropped the ball isn’t that horrible of a thing because there are two other companies who are currently testing out testosterone-based products instead of the flibanserin one. While this seems like great news at first, it scares me a little bit because while the side effects from the flibanserin based drug included dizziness, nausea, and fatigue which would have been no big whoop for me since I feel those things all the time anyway, what might the side effects of a testosterone based pill be?
Would it turn me into a dude? Would I grow…(GASP!) MY OWN COCK N’ BALLS???
Oh nos! While I rather enjoy a nice cock n’ balls, I don’t want one of my own, you know, hanging on me. Plus, I know from my own experience with taking birth control pills that messing with hormones is bad news bears. They turn me into a fat, bloated, psycho-bitch from hell. I don’t need to turn into a hairy, raging dick from hell. That would cause more problems in my house than it would solve, I think. Who wants to be horny, breaking out in pimples, and unapproachably aggressive?
Speaking of big deals, this whole “pink viagra” thing has been controversial anyway as it raises some important questions about what constitutes “normal” desire in women.
Who is to say, really, what that is? Aren’t we all wired just a little bit differently from one another? Some people burn 3,000 calories a day just sitting there (my husband for example), and others have metabolisms like lizards outside on a chilly morning. Some folks are just born to be taller than others, and some with less body hair. Why should we expect sex drives to fall into a narrow range of values? How do you even measure libido?
Not only that, but everyone has a different set of life circumstances that may be affecting their libidos. I think it’s impossible to account for that. I have a lot of crap going on in my life and most of the time it’s really hard to shut that off and focus on bodily pleasures. I really don’t think that’s dysfunctional–I think it’s part of being a woman living in 2010.
Also, I wonder if drug companies are just trying to profit from so called “female sexual dysfunction?” Male impotence/erectile dysfunction is a multi-billion dollar industry. Tapping into what seems to be just as pervasive a problem (if not more) means double the profits if they can jump on the bandwagon. Side effects be damned!
I’m just throwing this out there. I’m not a doctor or a psychiatrist and I’ve never been through menopause or suffered from a serious illness. I’m just a lady who sometimes is so, so, so not interested in Sexy Time and I don’t know why or how to fix it and it causes me anxiety and I’d do anything to change it.
Since I already know how I am with hormonal drugs, I don’t think I want to take a testosterone pill. Plus, according to an endocrinologist, I don’t need one. However I absolutely think they should keep working on it as an option for people who DO want to give it a whirl, or for whom the indications promise a better fit. There are many women out there with legitimate hormonal imbalances that get tested, before and after drug therapy, and show a definite improvement in quality of life, so having additional options is never a bad thing.
So I’m going to open all of this up to all you Toy with Mes. How do you feel about “female sexual dysfunction?” Do you think it’s a medical problem, a life problem, or is it just a way for drug companies to make money on us by preying on our insecurities when we’re really just variations on a spectrum of “normal” levels of desire? How do you know when someone has an honest-to-god issue that deserves medical attention?