Comments on: Why I Sometimes Fake Orgasms

By: kittymeow

kittymeow — Sun, 09 Oct 2011 13:11:46 +0000

I have had an orgasm through intercourse alone exactly once in my life, almost 20 years ago. However, I began my present relationship(2 yrs ago) with faking it….and don't know how to fess up now. I tried the "just isn't gonna happen" thing but that was met with pouting, worry, insecurity, and now not sure what to do. I can always orgasm, usually 1-2 times, or even more, with oral or manual or toys but have never been able to do it with just straight sex, except that one time!!! So sometimes I end up with a combo of real and fake O's, so he walks around with his chest puffed out-he makes so much effort and I don't want to dissapoint him!!!

By: Andrew

Andrew — Wed, 09 Mar 2011 06:31:53 +0000

Doesn't anybody here have a tv set?

By: Andrew

Andrew — Wed, 09 Mar 2011 06:28:57 +0000

I feel like I'm missing out. I'm sort of single at the moment so I don't have to fake anything but I'm beginning to think maybe I'd have more fun if I did now and again. Although I don't think I'd be fooling anyone but myself. I could live with that.

By: Andrew

Andrew — Wed, 09 Mar 2011 06:20:57 +0000

It's my fault actually. Sorry.

By: Andrew

Andrew — Wed, 09 Mar 2011 06:18:27 +0000

I've actually never faked an orgasm, but then again I think it's supposed to be a girl thing isn't it? Or is that me being naive? Or sexist? No romantic. At least they cared enough to fake it; that's got to count for something. I was too preoccupied to even think about an orgasm let alone have one, fake or otherwise. Just selfish I suppose, in a sycophantic sort of way: what's not to love? Why do women always seem to leave it till the last minute to say they love me; as a precursor to saying goodbye. We become good friends and never see each other again. At least they don't fake an orgasm.

By: Andrew

Andrew — Wed, 09 Mar 2011 06:14:35 +0000

I'm very adept when it comes to giving women fake orgasms. I have the touch so to speak. At least I presume they're fake ones because they usually tell me afterwards when I'm trying to work out what went wrong and why they're leaving me. Of course it could always be another lie; which would in fact make it the first lie, but I see that look in their eyes and somehow I just know their being honest and I'm reminded why I loved them in the first place. So hard I tried to arouse those fake orgasms that I never even thought of having one myself. Always had to settle for the real one in the shower afterwards. No need the fake them he he.

By: Andrew

Andrew — Wed, 09 Mar 2011 05:03:50 +0000

And what is faking it at the end of the day. It doesn't have to be the big production everyone makes it out to be. All that grunting and groaning yourself into a frenzy. Sometimes all it takes is a look, a sigh, a little squeeze of the hand. There's a hundred little ways my husband and I fake it every day without even getting naked and that's what keeps us together. That and the children.

By: Andrew

Andrew — Wed, 09 Mar 2011 05:02:21 +0000

Fake O is certainly the way to go, In fact I haven't had the real thing since… well never come to think of it. I came out of the womb wailing and moaning and have been faking it ever since. I find it not only more intense and satisfying but honest as well; in fact my husband and I both enjoy fake orgasms together, and so what if he fakes it prematurely, it isn't the end of the world. Honestly the pressure on men to perform in the bedroom these day's makes it so much harder… in the sense of being difficult that is. And when you fake it I think it's even harder… ( difficult). I know he feels bad; and blames himself. I just wish he'd understand… sure it's nice if we can fake it together but at the end of the day I don't really care if he fakes it before during or after… or not at all for that matter. It's not like you have to fake it every time.

By: KinkyJew

KinkyJew — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 15:11:16 +0000

Ooops! Forgot to say – As always: excellent article!!!

By: KinkyJew

KinkyJew — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 15:10:39 +0000

“I think it’s important to get over yourself and ask for what you need.”

I don’t think it’s a matter of “getting over ourselves.” I think a person is pretty “over him/herself” when they come to the realization that a certain “mile marker” won’t be hit today, but that doesn’t mean that they didn’t enjoy it, or that their partner should feel badly about not having been “good enough.”

Yes, we can sit and talk and work with our partners to ensure that they don’t blame themselves for us not getting there tonight, but sometimes it’s just a little white lie to make your partner feel better. I would hope that your partner would tell you that you are the most wonderful, intelligent, charming, and delightful human in the world, even if you’re not a member of MENSA. I don’t condone lying in relationships, but I don’t think letting one slide every now and again is an issue of our own egos.

If you’re *ashamed* to ask for what you want, then yes, learn to ask… but sometimes in relationships, you have to make a compromise, and you suck it up… so to speak.