Comments on: Sex After Baby. The Anal Beads Will Have To Wait

By: Tiffany

Tiffany — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 20:11:09 +0000

ok.. i am veryyy late getitng to this post and I only read the first comment before I had to announce to commenter #1 that 5 ro 6 times in a 4 month period considering you must take the first 6-8 weeks off is pretty damn good. my hubby was banging his head off the walls. he was lucky if he got it once a month that first year.

By: Alicia @ bethsix

Alicia @ bethsix — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 01:06:21 +0000

Umm, I just like that you made that Avitable reference. Brad and I laughed about throwing a hot dog down a hallway for a good two weeks.

I think we had sex before the six-week point after #1, mostly out of curiosity. With #2 and #3, it was probably right around six weeks. With this one (five months yesterday), I think we’ve done it twice. I just have NO interest. Zero. And my, um, anatomy seems to have changed this last time somehow. Not as enjoyable.

I have no idea how much of it is the med I’m on, how much is the fact that we have four children (at least two of whom end up in our bed pretty much every night), how much is that I’m 33 now (was a month shy of 25 with #1), and how much is that we’ve just gotten really complacent after 11 years of marriage. I have no idea. I wish I wanted to do it; I really do. I just don’t.

By: amy d

amy d — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 19:12:22 +0000

UGH..I had forgotten (in just a mere 15 months) how hard adjusting to a new baby in the house is. I’d like to think it will be easier for #2, but I’m not holding my breath.

The good thing about having all your babies before you turned 30 is that you already have a huge advantage over people like me….who only began at 30! Your body and metabolism are still young enough to snap back into shape. I’m looking to have #2 at 33! Yikes sista!!!

By: MamaSkates

MamaSkates — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 15:56:10 +0000

i feel like i’ll never b as confident as i once was…when i was skinny…but after kiddo #2, i realized that things r the way they r – i’ve carried & birthed 3 kiddos – i’m not gonna b the same…still working on the baby weight & my youngest is 5, but we have a very active & fun sex life now – confidence is definitely key!
& that pic of Sarah Palin IS hot – good grief mama!!!

By: Mwa

Mwa — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 12:34:34 +0000

A year sounds a bit long for me, but I never understood my doctor who was pregnant again a few weeks after popping her latest.

By: sarahcis

sarahcis — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 08:49:54 +0000

in answer to toywithme – NOT yet and its been almost 3 years.
I swear he put me back together wrong…..
But I was almost 37 when I had DS . Maybe that has something to do with it ?
Great article, great comments too – thanks Aunt Becky for another fabulous article that made me laugh so hard I snorted!

By: Stone Fox

Stone Fox — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 06:12:20 +0000

aunt becky, it’s things like, “i ate like a motherfucker and put on 60 lbs when i was preggo” that make me even more in love with virtual you.

sex after baby? after baby what? baby starts kindergarten? baby learns to drive? surely you don’t mean sex after baby has hurled down your vagina like a jamaican boblsed. my husband likes to refer to the immediate post-partum stage as “Punched Out Vagina” because really, it’s pretty well useless. i won’t even consider sex until i stop peeing myself when i cough.

well, see, i just realized what a dirty fucking liar i am because my two youngest kids are only a year apart. yes, ok, i admit: we are like dirty rabbits with all the humping. or maybe i rolled in the wet spot. i don’t know. either way, i’m pretty sure i was asleep.

By: TheExpatresse

TheExpatresse — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 05:31:11 +0000

And, yeah, I loved having sex while pregnant, although the kid probably didn’t like getting banged on the head.

Only time in my life my stomach didn’t jiggle.

By: TheExpatresse

TheExpatresse — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 05:28:42 +0000

First kid was born in Florida. After, my doula pulled me aside and said, “You’re not gonna want to, but FIND A WAY. Your husband deserves it.” Now I felt like someone had left a block of wood in my cootchie. I even asked at my follow up check up. I was given the All Clear down in LadyLand, but it didn’t feel right for a long time (it has since recovered, thank you).

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Second kid was born in Buenos Aires. At the childbirth prep classes, the other couples were asking, “How long do we have to wait after . . .”

The reply there: as soon as you want. No six week wait for them.

I know a milk-soaked, squishy tummied, exhausted mother doesn’t feel very sexy. But the more you do it, the sexier you will feel. And generally, the truth is, the fella is so damn glad to be there . . . the one worried about how you look is you.

By: Susan (woo222)

Susan (woo222) — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 02:44:00 +0000

This is awesome! Thank you for writing this! And honey, you are absolutely right, confidence is sexy as hell. You rock!! ~Susan