Riding The Crimson Wave – Having Sex On Your Period

Having sex on your periodRecently, I was out to dinner with a friend who’s deep into the modern art scene. “Really, she’s fantastic!” my friend kept saying. “You just have to see it!” My friend is desperately trying to convince me to meet a woman who calls herself an “artist.” I disagree. Why? Because I don’t actually know that collecting and then using your menstrual fluids to paint with should be considered “art.” Still, she was bringing up a good point: why are we so squeamish about women’s periods?

Bathe In The Blood Of Virgins

Now, technically the Torah is pretty clear on the whole thing; no sex during your period, also known as being in “Niddah,” NOR the week after, the so – called “Seven White Days.” So, that’s two weeks out of the month that the Torah says we can’t have sex… that’s a lot of not – fucking. Now, you can debate whether or not this is sexist, but when you think about back in the day, when people thought that spirits made you sick and the best way to get better was to do some kind of a dance and bathe in the blood of virgins or some crazy shit like that, you sorta can’t blame folks for freaking out over people bleeding for over a week with no greater side effects than fatigue and cramps. They didn’t understand it and it scared them, so they did the best they knew how to do; “no – touchy.” And sex on the rag? SUPER DUPER “no – touchy.”

I’m sorry, but I can’t not have sex for two weeks out of the month, and I think that if I tried to institute that now, my husband would divorce me… so I guess that tells you where we fall on the idea of “riding the crimson wave.” I think most people today are pretty cool with vaginal intercourse during a woman’s period, and most people I know wouldn’t be shocked to hear that some couples abstain because they find it “gross,” or “icky.”

It’s Taboo

“I mean, I wouldn’t go down on a girl when she’s bleeding. That would be like drinking her blood right?!” My male interviewee’s response. I told him that I had once dated a man who was totally find going down on me during my period, so long as I had a tampon in. Logically, it made sense, but I was never able to let him do it, because it was so ingrained in me that this was, to a large degree, taboo. Sex during my period was kind of exciting, because it was so prohibited, but I could never get behind someone putting their face down there. Not during THAT! My interviewee agreed: “No, man, I… no. I couldn’t. I could have sex with her, and I would totally make up for it with oral before and after she stopped bleeding, but not during!”

I’m Horny As Hell During My Period

Still, to be fair, I can see why some woman would have taken my ex up on his offer. I’m usually more aroused during my cycle. Maybe it’s because of the constant stimulation of things happening down there, or maybe it’s because of my hormones, but I can be horny as hell during my period. Throw down a towel, give me a naked guy, and I’ll have a pretty enjoyable evening planned out! Plus, to the best of my knowledge, your period slows down when you’re having sex… so you could really go at it for hours without concern of looking down (because hells yes, I would be on top) to find a crime – scene underneath you.

Some Of My Best Orgasms

And there are other benefits. Those of us who sometimes have trouble getting wet know that that isn’t an issue during your period! Ok, maybe it’s not the type of moisture your partner was looking for, but hey! Everyone can enjoy sex now for almost as long as you like without worry of drying up, or too much friction! Mother nature has pretty much paved the way and said, “Happy Trails!” Frankly, I enjoy having sex during my period for all of the above reasons, and have had some of my best orgasms during that time. Though, I can see why my husband prefers not to use his fingers at all during that time…

Afraid Of Blood

I can’t really say whether sex during your period is “wrong,” but I don’t hate on folks who get freaked out by the “ick” factor. I do it, but I also pick boogers out of my kitty’s nose… so that tells you a bit about me, I guess. To be fair though, it’s only when they’re really bothering him.

Anywho, back to the point! Some woman are “afraid of blood,” but manage to have their periods, and some men are find with blood, so long as it doesn’t come out of their girlfriend’s vagina. It’s a weird sort of line we draw: blood is ok, but only a certain type, and only from a certain place. CSI will show more bloody crime scenes than the Civil War, but I doubt they’ve ever once shown a used tampon or pad. Why is that? Why are we so squeamish when it comes to menstrual fluids?

And what do you think? Is it some sort of beaten – in sexism that tells us that sex with Aunt Flow is “dirty” and “wrong?” Do you do it? What limits do you draw: is vaginal ok, but no oral? Straight to anal? Or do you wait the two weeks until your woman is ritually clean?

The Kinky Jew About The Kinky Jew

The Kinky Jew and her husband got married last year, and live and work in the DC area with their two cats… who don’t actually work at all, but sort of freeload. KJ is a Consultant, and leads a very normal daytime job, which mostly includes Project Management, and working in a predominantly male dominated environment. The Kinky Jew also maintains a blog on PNN where she posts as Hannah Banana. She enjoys discussing sexuality, finance, religion, as well as any other topic that comes to mind.

Comments

  1. i am far, FAR filthier than my wife, so she is the limiting factor in what i will or will not do.

    that said, i would drink her blood any day. it doesn’t bother me a bit.

    incidentally, it also makes decent lube, although it does tend to coagulate. pesky platelets.

  2. Judaism is one of the religions that is most strict, if you will, regarding menstruation and ritual and all of that, and it’s always kind of bothered me that religions treat menstruation as such a dirty thing (If it matters, I was raised Jewish, bat mitzvah-ed and the whole deal, and now identify as atheist, personally). I guess it kind of ties in with the whole “body shaming” thing that I had mentioned during the squirting post. Women have been ashamed of their bodies for many, many years, and traditions/rituals/whatever such as a woman having to sleep in a separate bed/bathe/not have sex during her period are things that definitely contribute to that. It’s a natural function of our body, it’s related to procreation, and it sucks that it’s been seen as “dirty” for so long, you know? This is in no way an attack on Judaism or any religion in general, by the way. Just an observation, something that’s always bothered me (before I get jumped on in comments).

    However, I’m with you regarding period sex. I am super horny when I’m bleeding. Not only that, I guess I’m one of the lucky ones, because my period isn’t really heavy and when I get aroused during my period, I stop bleeding and exclusively lubricate. Like, if I was to remove my tampon after I had been fooling around with someone, you can physically see the spot on the tampon where I became aroused, because the blood just *stops* and it’s all vadge juice. Because of this, I’ve never gotten blood on my bed or my partner when fucking on my period. But I know people who have to put towels down, and blood still gets on the guy, too. I’ve never had that problem, though I wonder if I’m in the minority, or those friends are.

    If a dude says he won’t fuck on my period because it’s gross or something, that’s a total dealbreaker for me. It’s just a little blood. It washes off. If it’s *that* big a deal for you, we can go in the shower, but I’m horny as hell on my period and I’m gonna want to fuck! “Blow job week” my ass!

    Also period sex related, and I’m curious as to whether this happens to other people, too, my nipples are always sensitive but get REALLY sensitive when I’m menstruating. Sensitive enough that I can orgasm JUST from nipple stimulation alone. Does this happen to anyone else?

  3. Since I am menopausal I thankfully no longer need to deal with this. Back in the days when I did get my period I wasn’t much for doing the deed when Aunt Flo was visiting. Although, I will admit to feeling extremely horny. Usually a toy would remedy this though.

  4. I’m not for it or against it. Sex is fine any time but I’ve never had a heavy flow so I’ve never even needed to use a towel. I don’t love the idea of oral during my period. I know some women do so while wearing tampons but, because of my IUD, it’s too light to wear a tampon. I look at it this way, though: I don’t want to be drinking my own blood when I kiss him so I’d rather he not. Call it the “ick factor” but I just don’t like any icky thing. lol

  5. I haven’t even read it but… ewwwwwwwwwwwww. Actually it is not that bad. But no need to make it a regular topic.

  6. CP – I love that you’re a regular reader… that said, *I* cringed at the idea of drinking blood. Though, as long as everyone’s happy, I guess it doesn’t matter.

    Britni – The thing about sleeping in different beds, at least to my mind, can be taken a number of ways. I’m sure many people have heard of the “Red Tent” where women who were having their periods used to have to stay. It was away from their families, away from their tribe and community. So, on the one hand, extremely sexist when you think about shunning these women. On the other hand, the community had to provide for them, they were not allowed to work or interact with the rest of the community… so… kinda like a spa. I don’t have to deal with my family, OR clean, OR do anything, and YOU feed me, and I get to sleep a lot? WIIIIN!

    Like many things about religion, I think it’s about how you approach an idea. You can say that it’s body-shaming, and certainly there’s supporting evidence for that, or you can say that people were confused, and the ladies got a holiday. Thanks for the comment!!

    TWM – Toys are good… but my husband gets up and washes HIMSELF off… which leaves me free to snooze. It’s like a self-cleaning toy. Who cooks.

    Adriana – I never thought about the “drinking my own blood” factor. Thanks. Now I can’t eat lunch. ;)

    Mr. TWM – Ok, so I’m fascinated. Is it ALL blood? Like, when you cut your hand or something, do you feel ill? Cuz, if it’s consistent, then I can understand it. If it’s only vaginal blood…. ?

    Mepsipax – LMAO!! So…. this shouldn’t be a series of articles? No pics either, then?

    My thanks to everyone for the comments!

  7. well, as far as drinking your SO’s blood…. hasn’t anyone ever had a rare steak, or more-red-than-pink roast beef?

    i have, and it’s DELICIOUS.

    if it doesn’t bother me to eat/drink a COW’S blood, why the hell would it bother me to do the same thing to the mother of my two children?

  8. CP – You make a good point. I’m victim of my own blood-fearing upbringing.

  9. Long time reader, first time commentor. 8-p
    About the blood: My wife and I don’t engage in vaginal intercourse that week because she is a HEAVY bleeder, and the mess is more work than it’s worth, but her increased sensitivity makes it easy for her to OH from other forms of stimulation; yes Britni nipples too :-)

    KJ – on a side note, please consider joining the entertainment that is Twitter. There are really fun blogging/Jewish/sexstuff communities that would benefit from and embrace your insights. The hilarity value alone will make it worth checking out if you haven’t!
    Happy Chanukah!
    Zeo111

  10. Thanks for joining the convo, Zeo111. As to Twitter… I already barely pay attention in meetings. I cannot imagine the downward spiral that would be my career if I had an instant form of entertainment with me during those hours… But if I ever change my mind, I’ll post about it.

    Thanks!

  11. MoM (but not the real One) says:

    What I don’t do for you girl! LOL

    I am old. LOL I do not have engage with my husband during my period. Now I only get mine 4 days and its all clear so for those 4 days I don’t even shave my legs…its like a 4 day man vacation every month!

    Now that you are grossed out because much like my kids you can’t believe someone as old as me still does it! LOL Have a good day kiddo!

  12. MoM (but not the real One) says:

    BTW…the artist thing…does she really paint in vaginal blood???? That is just plain nasty! Why on earth does the poor girl do that…if she needs a few bucks for paint tell her to give me a call! LOL

  13. Another great post TKJ!

    I wonder why it is such a taboo topic. Seems pretty tame when compared to other things.

    I too get much more interested in sex during that week. I’ve always attributed it to the fact that we ‘couldn’t’ do anything other than a BJ Festival…but now, I (im)patiently awaiting for the husband to get home to ask him what he thinks about your post. Might be a bit too complicated to explain in a text message…

  14. Just for the record, my husband does not drink my blood.

    We just don’t do Sexy Time during lady days because it’s messy. It’s sheer laziness. We have white sheets for God’s sake. Even if we put a towel down, it’s very risky.

  15. @Crissy – that’s why G-D created shower-sex. It’s a Good Thing.
    @Mel – Thanks! Let me know how the whole convo with the hubs goes. Remember, that’s why you always keep that ONE red towel in the house… or maybe that’s just us.
    @MoM – Well, I wax, so my man – vacations can be a week long. I don’t know what it says about our relationship that he just never notices. And also – No, I don’t know why the woman collects and paints in her own blood. I really wanna be open and non-judgmental about that, but it does kinda wig me out. And thanks for commenting!! ;)

  16. carmiekins says:

    Okay KJ…since I have blasphemed your good name in the last few days – it’s the LEAST I could do to come on by and give you my $.02.

    During those 4 days-ish…it’s “keep that little thingy away from me” time. Not interested…I wear garlic necklaces and sleep with a 22 Revolver with silver bullets and draw a line down the middle of the bed and if he crosses said line…all bets are off and the safety on the gun “clicks” and he knows I mean business.

    I, personally, am glad that I have honorary Jew status, because now I have even MORE ammo that I never knew I had! Wait till I enlighten hubby about the “Niddah”. It’s like you just gave me a get out of jail free card. How will I ever thank you?

    Some of this post makes me have to think about my “Happy Place” and I will not retreat to the corner of my office where sit cross-legged and suck my thumb as I rock back and forth thinking about all the dirty sheets of your readers while I try to keep my OCD under control.

    I love you, KJ…and YOU can take THAT to the BANK!

  17. Well first the positive commentary dear KJ
    From experience I can tell you that in my early days [that's youth to those who need explanation] I thought nothing of riding the wave, mainly because my husband of the time was insistent upon sex whenever and wherever, so he was not about to let some blood droplets get in the way. Back then one of the benefits of sexing him was a lessening of crampage, so I was much more willing to give in since for me those little buggers were so painful you could often hear me screaming from across the street. The one downside is/was I am a heavy flo jo, so it was definitely messy and the day mattered as well, since for me the third to fourth day I am prone to major clottage and not little ones either no sir BIG ASS ATTACK OF THE BLOB SUCKERS THAT LOOKED LIKE THEY WERE DEVOURING HIS DICK… Yes in deed they were freaking huge.
    Now over the years [as I get older] there are hormonal changes going on, my period gets so heavy sometimes that I must wear a depends diaper if I intend to go out anywhere and this is along with the tampons and a pad. The cramping and pain I used to have is not so much anymore and the hubster of present well he prefers not to dip in the well when the water is red.

    I must admit sometimes I am super horny just before my period sometimes during it and BUT [most often just after it ends] I go into hyper sex drive and yes the sensitive nipples thing happens here too Is it not the most awesome thing indeed!!

    I am also able to orgasm without touching myself at all simply by clenching and unclenching kegel style so I can sit in a meeting and orgasm [of course that depends on how horny since I can be quite vocal but the challenge is to try and do it without getting caught that is in and of itself stimulating mmmmm but I digress.

    So for me were it not for bleeding heavily enough to fill a swimming pool I would have no issue with it again depending on the day but I can now make it through my period without screwing age has given me patience… especially since my biggest bang for my hip bucking comes right afterwards ;-)

  18. hmmm really I guess there was no real negative commentary was there heehe

  19. I read “White” and “Seven” and thought we were talking some major Cirque Du Freak stuff here.

  20. So imagine my disappointment to find out there were no dwarfs involved.

  21. I *TOTALLY* almost made a joke about Jewish dwarfs!! (Which, of course, we’re making the distinction between FICTIONAL dwarfs and “Little People”)…. it’s like you’re in my head…

  22. Wearmanyhats says:

    Ha! KJ, I should have known you would be doing all kinds of other blogs. Just hadn’t thought about it. Great topic. But I’m struggling with that paint with blood thing. Oh well, whatever, right? I’ve been thru the feminism back-to-your-roots thing so this is just weird to me. But thank God we live in a country where people won’t come to get us in the middle of the night and take us away because we paint with vaginal blood or write about sex during menstration!

  23. so not to show everyone just what a huge nerd i am, the number one thing i am taking away from this is the need to say…”yes, they did show a used pad on csi. well, sort of, it was pad, with blood put there by a transgendered person, to really appear to be a fully functioning woman…” (seriously, what is wrong with me?! i need to get a life! -))

  24. omg…period sex is magnificent. i’ve never had someone perform oral during that time…and I don’t think i could…but sex? YES PLEASE!! I wear my red wings with pride!

  25. I don’t like the body shaming that revolves around women’s “abject” body and the monstrous feminine that is perpetuated by many religions and cultures. The blood “curse” is one of the worst for this, in which women’s messy seeping inner bodies are portrayed as gross, evil and inhuman (like in horror films, for instance)…

    I have a friend actually who also makes menstrual blood art (dyes cloth in menstrual blood) and is a textile artist. Her reasoning for this is to show how society views women’s bodies as gross and to expose those stereotypes, but also to embrace it as well. KinkyJew- I’d be interested in knowing the artist your friend is referring to.

    Personally, I don’t think menstrual blood is gross, I just hate the cramps and fatigue I get from bleeding. I do find that sex and masturbation (orgasms) helps to relieve that quite a bit.

    I knew a guy once who was quite into getting his “red angel wings” during oral sex. I found it very “dirty”, in an intriguing, taboo, kinky kind of sex way, which was actually a big turn-on.

  26. Ms. Kinky Jew, this is honestly a great topic. So many different opinions, so little time! Neither Mr. W or I are grossed out by menstrual blood. Ever since middle school health class, where my teacher explained how it is actually quite sanitary and its intended purpose, I have not understood the gross factor. While I completely respect a man’s choice not to want to engage in sex during that time- it’s not for everyone- anytime a guy acts grossed out simply by the fact that women have periods, it’s an instant turnoff. It shows me he has the maturity of a 9 year old, and even when I’m done bleeding, I don’t want to fuck a 9 year old. As for Mr. W and me, I won’t pretend we’ve never done it during that time, but it’s not our favorite. I’m always grumpy and crampy and retaining water like a camel, and it’s normally not worth the mess. However, sometimes, no matter what the situation is, you’ve just gotta bone. ;)

  27. It makes a hell of a mess, but I get my period and I GET MY PERIOD (you wanted to know that, I know) so it’s like a murder scene. Really, I don’t want to clean that shit up. So no, I don’t. Because I’m lazy.

  28. I’m not going to judge, but I’m going against the grain … Painting and making art with menstrual fluid to prove that women are not evil and that our bodies are not disgusting? Sounds a little opposing on it’s own. In my very own womanly opinion, the flowing days are just that … disgusting. Fat, bloated, tired, hungry, emotional, smelly, sticky …. there’s nothing sexy about that. I have no problems with blood itself … can watch hours of CSI without wincing … love those bloody steaks … and a paper cut on the finger goes right to my mouth to stop the bleeding, but from what I remember learning in sex ed class (and I’ll google it before I post so I know for sure ;) ) menstrual fluid is not entirely blood. It’s waste. Our bodies expel it when it is not required, where as blood courses continually through our veins keeping us alive. A wee bit of a difference to me. Menstruation is not beautiful, it’s not evil either, but it’s icky and it stinks. Much like when you eat too much mcdonalds then have to run to the can before you explode … ! No dicks, fingers, or tongues down there then either thanks! And my thoughts on a canvas decorated by turds of shit would be the same as my thoughts on a canvas decorated by menstrual blood. My opinion may be based on the fact that between being on Depo Provera and the Marena IUD for 9 years combined, I have only had the unfortunate experience of dealing with menstruation for a total of 3 years since high school and it’s just not for me. My boyfriend has never been a fan of doin the deed while aunt flow was in town, and when we first got together, I was in between depo and the IUD. My flow was really light though and gone within 36 hours so I issued no rain checks or blow job days (ok, well I still allow blow job days but now they are for entirely different reasons). When we discussed it, he said that the lubrication was thicker during those days and didn’t much like how I felt. Well, win for both of us, because I didn’t much like how it smelt ….. so we cut that out until the IUD began working it’s magic :)

  29. Have been waiting to read about this topic!
    Actually suggested this topic to Aunt Becky ages ago via twitter.

    It really depends on the guy in regards to the bloody sex for me.
    The man I am seeing at the moment, the first time we hooked up I had my period (Near the end of my cycle so it was light), but i let him know and he was fine with it. Well honestly I made my BFF tell him cause I was a bit drunk and pretty embarassed.
    Normally the bleeding will sort of stop for me too when having the sex.
    Or there is the good old “Magic Sex” (Named by BFF and myself), where tampon is in, just before the sex, take tampon out, have the sex, put new tampon in. Therefore, “Im bleeding, wait now Im not, Wow its just like Magic Sex!”

    In regards to the painting. Ew. That must be so unhygenic. And crusty. And smelly. Ew

  30. I was actually just talking about this at dinner a few nights ago. (I know, you really want to have dinner with me and find out what else makes it to table conversation). But, honestly, it’s really always sort of freaked me out. I’ve never done it. I’ve always just had a “closed for business” attitude about it. I think it’s because I always felt shameful about my period when I was younger. And also because mine are so heavy and painful. But I often fantasize about relieving the cramps… KJ, you may have just talked me into it.

  31. OMG…I am glad that I am not the only one who picks boogers out of my kitty’s nose. I find nothing gross about it…how can they even breathe when it gets that bad? *giggles* and they look so dorky, cause they can’t get ‘em off…why not help? It’s like helping your child blow their nose, eh?

    I have only had sex on my period a few times, and it just kinda freaked me out…cause I have a REALLY heavy period, so I make an uber mess, and I guess guys seeing blood on their Captain Fantastic kinda turns ‘em off…and I don’t have a blood fetish, so I really wouldn’t want him to go down on me there, even with a tampon in. With a tampon, I can see the sense, but usually I feel so shitty during my period that I don’t want him to TOUCH down there, let alone have his FACE down there. No. Way.

    But, I am also extremely horny during my period!!! I am so relieved that I am not the only woman with this problem. But I have to abstain. I call it “blowjob week” which gets old pretty fast. Blowjobs = good for men, tiring for my mouth. And after a week? I’d rather have Captain Fantastic inside of me than anywhere near my mouth. But that’s just me. He begs to differ, of course *chuckles*

    Anyways, I guess I just haven’t really tried sex on my period enough, but trying it during (at least a few days in when the flow isn’t so heavy) wouldn’t be so bad, and would certainly help my hormones…we shall see!!

    I am not afraid of other women’s periods, but seeing used tampons kinda grosses me out. It’s just, I don’t want to see other women’s bloody used tampons…at least wrap them in toilet paper? But other than that, I have no problem with it. I am very open about these things, just like a lot of things involving my sexuality. :)

  32. PS. The “drinking the blood” thing would bother me, because I know that menstruation is only a few tablespoons of blood, and the rest of it is the coagulate and the chunky lining where the nutrition for the baby would go if the egg was fertalized. For some reason, it would gross me out to think that they would have to swallow that chunky lining as well. I mean, I suppose you could make the argument, “Hey, extra nutrients and protein!” but I myself wouldn’t want to do it, and I would be kinda like…eauh dun touch me there XD

  33. Rose, I know you don’t want your bf’s face down there, but what about one of those fingertip vibrators? That way it’s small, external, gets you that clitoral and lip stimulation, but without the bloody mess that puts you off.

    So, in conclusion, I think we can all agree: hornyness during your period = pretty universal, sex during your period = for the brave/ low-flow/ ready to clean, and finally, kitty boogers = required removal.

    …it’s all facts people, I just report on them! ;)

  34. We had a saying back in the 70s for all you born much, much later: “If it feels good, do it.”

  35. hmm. for me it was always just about how i felt when i’m on my period: gross & sticky “down there”, and thus dirty and unsexy, wearing tampons or pads feels less comfortable, and i’m usually cramping the first couple of days. it’s definitely less about the blood or taboo associations, and more about actual physical discomfort. i used to never even touch myself when i was on my period, but gradually got over it. however i never even broached the subject of sex while on my period to a partner, because i assumed he’d be grossed out by it… until i met someone who *wanted* to, and actually asked me if we could. having him pleasure me made me feel desired and sexy and really helped remove alot of my negative connotations :)

  36. My fiancée, although very sensitive at those times, has no desire for actual penetrative sex. Stimulation to orgasm is still possible and does seem to make things easier for her.

  37. I've just discovered this blog (awesome, btw) and am surprised no one mentioned "Instead" in the comments. They are sort of like a diaphragm and are marketed as an alternative to pads and tampons. I remain devoted to the O.B. brand tampons but keep a box of Instead on hand to use for sex during my period. My husband isn't squeamish but I'm the one who has to try to get blood stains out of our 700 thread count sheets. If it's the last day or two of my period and the flow is of the "barely there" sort, we'll just opt for a towel. And I must say that unless we are both desperate, there's something to be said for the "abstinence makes the heart grow fonder" concept (or the "pretend we are teenagers and not ready to go all the way" scenario). However, options are good so I suggest checking out the Instead product if squeamish-ness or mess prevention are an issue.

  38. I've been using sea sponge tampons recently, and haven't tried this yet but they *say* you can have sex with them in. Mostly (although i get crazy horny the night before i start) when the flow is on, the libido is off. I feel yucky and gross and just want to be left alone. The first time that changes, i'll try the sponge thing and let ya know ;)

    • spounge in not a good idea, could get really pushed in and very difficult to get back out. Try telling your self that you are desirabel and that this is good. Relax and let it go. You can have just as much fun and such and then get him in the shower to massage and use all those nice girly soaps we save just for us.

      • as far as the sea sponge getting "really pushed in," how is using one any different from using a contraceptive sponge?

  39. Sex while i am red, Damn right. It helps release the cramps, and since he's bigger than a tampex, well I figure he opens it up so it will drain off faster. My "O" is a lot more intense too. I have found tho that he is larger when I am red and more prone to harder thrusts. ( aw Hon, are you trying to push it out my butt? ease off a bit ) So often I "dog it' so I can control how far he goes in. He thinks he's really getting it, when really I am controling him. My Ob says men are larger during Red, thinks it's a smell instinct and mating thing. so this way works and with a favorite towel under it's Ok. Kinda helps my mental state as I don't get quite as bitchy as when he ignores me.

  40. My late wife and I surfed the crimson wave many, many, many times during our marriage and before. In the beginning she was a little bothered by my desire for her. I finally convinced her that loving her was more important than that little bit of blood every month. Afterward we would shower and was the towel that was under us. No big deal.
    The real difference was the wetness; as you stated so eloquently, it is always there, but it was a different kind of wetness. A little rougher, a less slick, and I noticed that she was able to get off quicker, cum a little longer, and after while she actually began to look forward to her visitor. She said the sex made the cramps more comfortable.
    I would finger her, touch her, squeeze her; but I couldn't bring myself to go down on her. As you mentioned – the “ick factor” would rear its ugly head if you will. I would smell my fingers during our love making for her awesome womanly aroma, but I could not bring myself to eat her out. So I would wait until she was through for a couple of days then make up for lost time.
    dave

  41. I don't think it's taboo! I'm 26 and just found this site. (Looking for ways to explain my vibrator to my nine year going through puberty girl). I'm on depo so I don't really have lady days anymore, but when I did. Horny as hell when on! If my partner seemed like the oh no type, I wouldn't even tell him…take a shower and you're good for about 15 minutes. Then just call it a quickie! Other than that it usually falls on the guys feelings….

  42. I've earned my "red wings" and happen to think that sex with women on their period is great. The blood thing is no big deal. For crying out loud, if bodily fluids make you squeamish, sex is just not the thing for you. I happen to like the extra warm feeling. Yes, I'll give you that it's a bit messy. So what. Same rules apply as before.

    My current girlfriend wouldn't let me go down on her last time and that's OK. If she's not comfortable with that, it's not a problem for me. Still, I was headed there. I did try.

    Seeing her extra horny and wanting to devour me is all I need to know that we'll have a great time. Everything else you can wash off.

    BTW, one girlfriend of mine used to get very bad cramps and she said that intercourse always helped lessen them. I always replied that I was "happy to do my part" :-)

  43. I think that period sex is great. The blood doesn’t matter to me one way or the other. And yes, it’s messier, but so what — sex is always messy.

    But the extra hormonal horny enthusiasm, that’s what makes it so much fun.

  44. jovanah says:

    My bf and I used to hate having sex on period, it was just too nasty. but after I read this interesting blog http://sexonperiod.com I learned how to spice it up during these days. Men are so simple, just give them great sex and you will keep them forever, LOL :)

  45. Ive never had any issue with having sex with someone on their period.

  46. I see nothing wrong with it !! Thats all i have to say :)

  47. Love this..so interesting knowing what you ladies are thinking about such an intimate issue. That said, I dare say that my wife was horniest and had her strongest orgasms during her period. She was extremely selfconscious about it…me-not at all…I would try to give her “exterior” oral..but always ended up with her pulling me back up and wanting me in her… I will take bloody sex over post menopausal doledrums anytime…ahhhh, the good old days.

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