So the other night I woke up to find that somehow I was partaking in some super hawt sexx in my sleep and it wasn’t even a dream! It was totally real and I had no idea it was happening!
Isn’t that weird?
What’s even more weird is that my husband was also asleep when it started and we sort of woke up together in the middle of Sexy Time. It was kind of awesome, actually, but HOW THE HELL DID THAT HAPPEN?
I’d like to say it’s the first time, but it’s not. It’s happened before, except last time I was having a dream that I was having sex with George Washington (shut up! It’s just a dream! Oh, like you never dream weird stuff! Besides, George Washington was a total badass. Not everyone knows that.) and old George was giving it to me pretty good, but then I realized it wasn’t George Washington at all. It was just my husband.
I was bummed, you guys. That shit was presidential.
Anyway, there I was doing Sexy Time with George Washington my husband and I had no idea how it all started.
It’s not like I’m a big sleep walker or anything, so I’m kind of surprised to find that I’m a sleep fucker. Actually, I take that back. I did sleep walk one time in 4th grade at my friend Katie’s house when I went looking for my mother, only I found her dad in his underpants instead (my mother was at home in her bed where she belonged and not in Katie’s dad’s bed, just fyi.), but that’s the only time I can remember anything like that going on. Just watch, now we’ll find out that I’m actually a chronic sleepwalker and I’m responsible for like, I don’t know, some sort of wild debauchery which I have absolutely no recollection of.
Come to think of it, I do wake up quite frequently with bruises I cannot explain…
Sometimes I wet the bed when I’m sleeping because I’m having a dream that I got up to pee, but I didn’t. It’s way more fun waking up wet from being Sexy Timed instead of wet from peeing the bed. I am just saying.
And sometimes I wake up after a dream about somebody, and I’m either temporarily in love with them because of what happened in the dream, OR I want to kick their ass. Like, I don’t really think Pierce Brosnan is all that, but I had a dream about him and now I can’t watch Mrs. Doubtfire anymore without blushing because Pierce and I did some very naughty bad things together. Conversely, I’ve had dreams that my husband did something wicked douchey and I woke up with a major ‘tude that I just couldn’t shake for a while and every time I look at him I want to shout “HOW COULD YOU?” only he wouldn’t know what I was talking about.
Does that ever happen to you guys?
Do you wake up feeling guilty when you have a sexy dream about someone other than the person you’re currently doing Sexy Time with? I don’t, because it’s just a dream. It’s not like you can help it, right?
I’ve even had…ahem…nocturnal orgasms. Those are the best. They require no work! You have to get up to change your underpants though. That kinda sucks but it’s a small price to pay for a gift from the orgasm gods.
So anyway, I had to Google this crap because how random is it that we were both asleep during sex because sweet Jesus what’s wrong with us? Well, it turns out that it’s a sleep disorder specialists call “sleep sex” or “sexomnia,” and it causes people to engage in sexual acts such as masturbation, fondling, intercourse, sexual assault or even rape while they’re sleeping. Use of alcohol, ahem, or other illicit drugs *eyebrow raised at Ken* seem to be a trigger for some people, as is contact with a bed partner.
According to an article I read at USA Today, almost 8% of patients at a sleep clinic reported having either initiated or taken part in Sexy Time whilst asleep. Men did it more than women (shocking!) and accounted for three-quarters of the “sexomniacs.”
Some dudes even get hurt during sexomniac episodes because they wind up humping brick walls and stuff and wake up all chafed and whatnot.
It’s kind of funny, actually.
Researchers were pretty surprised by their findings because it’s not really something folks call the doctor about, but it turns out that almost one in 12 people who suffer from sleep issues report that at least some sort of sexual behavior (masturbation, intercourse, etc.) has happened while they’re sleeping. About 11% of men and 4% of women said they had engaged in “sleep sex.”
Huh.
So we both have some sort of sleep disorder.
OR!
OR!
We should prolly not party so much maybe.
So has this happened to you guys? I’d like to know because I’ve been going around asking people about it and most of them (like the guy at the post office) look at me like I’m on Quaaludes or something. Some people admit to falling asleep during sex, but only one other person I asked said she and her husband have awakened in the middle of sex.
Also, do you wet the bed? It’s okay to tell. We’re all friends here.
About the Author
Crissy,a lifelong Rhode Islander, is 35 and has two little girls. Aside from doing a little bit of writing here and there, she doesn’t use a shred of her MA in English. She writes a blog where she is Queen of *&%$#@* Everything and reigns over her readers, whom she calls Queefs, with a loving but firm hand. In both 2008 and 2009 Crissy won the Blogger’s Choice Award for Hottest Mommy Blogger. In 2010, Crissy was chosen as one of Blogher's voices of the year.
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You wear underpants to bed?? (You really do need to air out your girly bits sometimes. Seriously. =)
I've only had this happen once, YEARS ago. It was pretty awesome. Never fallen asleep during sex, though. (wtf??)
I don't always wear them, but sometimes I forget to take them off.
Nocturnal orgasms are the best. And Jason used to wet the bed all the time, but we all know he was drinking AND taking copious amount of drugs, so whatever. Not. Happy. To. Get. Peed. On.
Is it contagious? I'd volunteer to do a medical study to find out. But then again, I'm a guy so I'm sure you are not shocked.
It's happened once to hubby and I, we both woke up during the foreplay, yup, that's right, he remembered foreplay while sleeping!
"has a pocket full of horses
fucked the shit out of bears
threw a knife into heaven
and he killed with a stare"
washington WAS a badass!
what about sex with someone who DOESN'T wake up? is there a name for that?
That's probably where the sexual assault and rape comes in, unfortunately.
Unless it's with your significant other, in which case we hope it's just awkward.
Sometimes your posts just make me feel like I am missing out on a lot of pussy. I meant "fun": missing out on a lot of fun.
I have awakened fucking, but only because the fully awake person in bed next to me decided it was time for another round. But it would be nice to wake up fucking a brick wall with my dick all bent and dented for a change.
I have had that peeing dream plenty of times but I always wake up before I actually start to pee. The last time I peed in bed I was in college. Luckily, I was not in my own bed. I may have been sleeping on a sidewalk. I may also have set a building on fire while in college. It's all sort of fuzzy.
I've had bad sex and I've had boring sex, but how the hell do you fall asleep during sex? That's like the opposite of premature ejaculation. Borgasm, anyone?
I have fallen asleep while whacking off, though. You know, sometimes you are just too tired to whack off and the cake only makes you even more sleepy, but you give it your best try anyway. It actually shows a sort of bold resolve to cum even in the face of physical adversity, kind of like sleep-fucking. If only more people demonstrated such a tireless commitment to cum, the world would be a better place.
Oh, I have had solo sexy time when I wake up to find my hand down my own underwear. Always weird when I had no intention of feeling myself up but somehow my dreams must have been something else to give me a go. I am not surprised about the males having sexomnia but women? That I can start to believe.
My wife started doing this after she got prescribed Ambien, but when she does it, she only wants to give me a bj. She has no memory of it the next morning. I love Ambien!
i keep telling crissy to try some next time she can't sleep.
Once I woke up during sex, but my husband swears he thought I was awake. Still not sure I believe him.
My sister used to sleepwalk and pee in the closet (thinking it was the bathroom).
Why I can’t I do something useful like SleepExercising or SleepCleaning?
Sleep cleaning would be awesome! Imagine the stuff you could get done!
Happens to me all the time when hubby is here! He says I keep him up half the night fondling him and jerking him off, then when he tries to do something to me I roll over. Ha! He says the times that I don't roll over though..he would really like to know who I am dreaming about because apparently I moan more while I'm asleep!
I haven't wet the bed since I was 12, and that dream involved the Flintstones and a lake. >_> I still have dreams where I think I'm in the bathroom, but fortunately the act of relaxing my muscles jars me awake. It gets a little confusing when I start dozing off while already ON the can, though.
As for sexy dreams, oh yes. I haven't been able to orgasm though. Sometimes I wake up to find myself being very *ahem* affectionate with my body pillow however.
My wife went to an all girls school but there were guys who 'visited'. One of the other visiting guys told me once that his girl in the dorms did that. Personally, I've never so much as had a wet dream. Sexy dream yes, wet dream no. I take comfort in the fact that I sleep like the dead and get the rest from it.
My hubby does this… I can't count the number of times he's gotten things started and then accused me of waking him up by fucking him. O.o HE'S the one that wakes ME up! Psh… I've never done it that I know of… I'll wake up from some awesome dreams sometimes and have to get myself off before I can even think about going back to sleep, though.
As for wetting the bed? The last time I did that I was at college living in the dorms. I totally panicked thinking that my roommate just 10 ft away would notice and tell everyone on our floor. So far as I know, though, no one ever found out… >.<
nocturnal orgasms are a gift from the orgasms gods! so weird they happen without any touching or sexy time. can't even try to make them happen. wish there was a switch for these or you could get them from the sexy time.
ps: i could use some presidential shit!
I THINK I HAVE THIS!!! I have been known to sleepwalk, once involving me marching around my house with a sword on my shoulder….but that is a different story. But, I have definitely woken up to find myself doing wonderfully dirty things with and to my girlfriend. Only full scale sex once, but she and I have both woken up to me with my hand in her nether region. Also, apparently there have been times when I have done things to facilitate giving her an orgasm without waking up. Sometimes it does correspond to a dream, but not always, sometimes the dreams are not the least bit sexual. There was one time where I had a dream that I was running my hands through various things, like a rug, a dog, a pond (and the weirdest one) a typewriter. Thank you Crissy because now I have some research on my hands and a log book for when it happens and what happened before I went to sleep that night.
i expect to see a transcript of that log book, han.
I'm just soooo EF-ing pissed that I am a day late on this post. VERY disapponted in myself. I might have to go to sleep and dream now…..
Good night……