My Bachelorette Party Debacle

Male StripperI wasn’t overly keen on having a bachelorette party. Color me an old “stick-in-the-mud” but there was something about dressing up with tiny penises dangling from my earlobes and going out with a gaggle of women to get wasted on Blow Job shots and generally make asses of ourselves that just didn’t send me running for the door. I’d tried to beg off the idea every way that I could, but my seven bridesmaids were having none of that. I was the first of my friends to get married and they wanted to celebrate, dammit.

Begrudgingly, I agreed. A plan was hatched—a plan involving Chicago’s own Italian food, plenty of booze and all kinds of drag queens–and the thirty of us involved were to meet at my condo to open gifts and start drinking before the party began. The best laid plans and all that, of course, found me in the bathroom in my swank wrap dress and heels as the girls began to arrive, trying to mop up an avalanche of water and plunge my overflowing toilet.

My husband-to-be and young son had just departed and there was no one else to take care of the mess, so there I was, an inch deep in water trying to clean up the mess, my makeup running down my face in the August heat. My condo, while it had bad plumbing, didn’t have air conditioning. I’m sure I looked quite a sight.

Suddenly, I could hear a commotion in the hallway, where I’d stationed one of my bridesmaids to let guests in. A distinctly male voice came booming through and my friend Chris frantically appeared in the bathroom, “Uh, BECKY? THE STRIPPER IS HERE.”

“EXCUSE ME?” I panted, confused. We hadn’t ordered a stripper. I’d been soured on male strippers years before and wondered if she’d misspoke.

“Dude. No. There’s a fucking stripper here and he’s hot as hell,” she smiled happily. “Anyway, you have to come deal with him.”

I handed her the plunger, and gritting my teeth as I washed my hands I took a deep calming breath to find out what “hot stripper” meant to Chris. I figured “hot”  was some sort of euphemism for ugliest stripper she’d ever seen in her life, probably toothless and mulleted and I wasn’t entirely pleased by this turn of events. Instead, in my hallway, there stood a semi-short, but very hot guy.

Tommy The Stripper

My mouth dropped open and I stood there goggling at him for a second, hardly believing my eyes. Where the hell had he come from?

“Hi,” he spoke, “your friend Dana ordered me. I need some place to get ready.” Aside from having a sort of flat face and being about my height (I’m 5 foot 5 inches), the guy just didn’t have a bad angle. It was a shame Dana wasn’t here to reap the benefits of his hotness. She was stuck in traffic. Sucker.

Awkwardly, the only place that I had for him to get ready was my 3 year old’s bedroom. So the hot stripper shuffled off to go fluff his dangle off in my kid’s bedroom. That was mighty strange for us both, but I didn’t have much else to offer him. I explained as much to him, blushing furiously, and shaking my fist at Dana for not warning me that he was coming.

I went into the living room where I told the girls that “SUPRISE we had a stripper!” Everyone laughed nervously. It was 4PM and no one was even remotely tipsy.

The next thing we knew, Tommy, the stripper, burst out of Ben’s room with a boom box and began to gyrate around, stripping off his SWAT team costume while we all tittered. Again, not nearly drunk enough for this. I was shoved into a chair in the center of the room and the next thing I knew, Tommy’s balls were on my face. The stripper, whose balls smelled remarkably like strawberry, had put his nuts on my face in front of thirty of my friends. Mortified doesn’t begin to describe how I felt. Especially when I realized that pictures were being eagerly snapped away.

Next, he flipped me over and pseudo-humped my butt, doggie-style. Nothing left to do but laugh, which I did. Thanking the powers that be, when he laid me down on the floor to have my friends shove money in my undies and bra for him to remove with his mouth, I’d shaved. Because my friends had an awesome view of my cootchie. The very last thing I had to suffer through was to take a shot from the waistband of his thong. In all of the pictures, it looks like I’m giving him a blow job. Which, obviously not. I know these things happen, but I assure you not by completely sober girls who have no interest in stripper peen.

Humiliation, oh, humiliation was thy name. In every picture that I have of those ten minutes, hot as he may have been, I was so bright red and laughing so hard that I am nearly glowing. If I’d been able to jump out a window to escape my situation, I would have done so in a heartbeat, but I’m pretty sure it wouldn’t have helped anything. It was terrible. That is, until Tommy, The Hot Stripper, then began to make his way around to my friends, pulling each of them one by one to the center of the room and molesting them. While my blood pressure didn’t drop until he was safely out the door, I was much happier not being the center of attention.

Years later, I’m still not sure if hiring a stripper is supposed to be an exercise in humiliation for the bride-to-be or some sort of tantalizing treat for her because I assure you that I’ve been more turned on by door handles than I was by Tommy. But my ears have finally stopped burning when I hear the name, and I can now look back at the pictures and have a good laugh. Especially at the ones where he’s rubbing his balls on Chris’s face. Priceless.

Toy With Me About Toy With Me


  1. I have been to only one bachelorette party with a stripper and I was 17 or 18 I think. I was so mortified the whole time the stripper as there. I ate a ound of twizzlers, drank WAY to much vodka and ended up puking what I thought was blood that night. Nope, just a pound of twizzlers.

    I still love twizzlers.

  2. This sure makes me happy that I didn’t have a bachelorette party. Being tea bagged by strawberry scented balls is not on my priority list.

    AWESOME photo!

  3. yay picture!!!

    i have to say, for someone so uninterested and embarrassed, you’re putting on a damned good show.. 😉

  4. While I cannot be absolutely certain, I think that your stripper is my friend Danny! Looks just like him!!!!

    Tommy must be his stage name!

  5. TheBeerLady – A gag gift 😉 Sure everyone will buy that *snicker*

  6. wow…I am never coming to your parties..I have this thing about balls on my forehead. It ain’t gonna happen. At least they smelled good.

  7. “I’m off to fluff my dangle” is totally my new blog tagline.



    Balls in your face is truly one of the ONLY things you really need to be completely hammered for. And the strawberry scent? Disturbing.

  8. I still can’t believe that I missed his grand entrance, but it was still worth it! And the surprise element was the best part, my friend :) You can always count on me for a good time!

  9. Still being single , I’ve never had a bachelorette party, but for my birthday this year, my friends thought a stripper would be a good idea. It was funnier than it might have been, because it was a combination birthday/halloween party, so it wasn’t a girls-only group. And the stripper was a surprise known only to a few of the people at the party, so there were a LOT of shocked faces.

    I have to say, I enjoyed it immensely, but luckily I outweighed him by about 50 pounds, so that apparently reduced his inclination to pick me up or flip me around. And I didn’t realize how much I should appreciate that his balls didn’t smell like strawberries. Thank you, whoever invented Irish Spring. And thank you, Mr. Stripper in the fireman’s coat, for using it.

    The funniest part of it to me was a part that nobody else at the party caught, which was probably a good thing. When the stripper first got there, the hostess passed him off as a guy we’d gone to high school with. What the heck, it’s a costume party, a guy in a fireman’s outfit is no big deal, and it’s been many years since we were in high school, so it’s not a surprise to meet someone that you supposedly know and don’t remember.

    But of course, I had said I recognized him. Of course, once everyone found out he was a stripper, they gave me a hard time for being sure I knew him when we’d never met him before. Except that I was sure I really did recognize him, and when it hit me, I actually said it out loud – he has a profile posted on a particular ‘dating’ site that is aimed at, shall we say, adventurous and consenting adults. I am very happy that no but him heard me say it, because then I would have had to explain how I happened to SEE his profile on that site. And I don’t know if I’d be able to explain that I was given a membership as a gag gift last year, because seriously, who would believe it?

    But it gave me something else to worry about. I have friends that have given me a stripper, and a membership to a hook-up site. Is it them, or is it me?

  10. Think I’d be grateful he smelled like strawberries.

  11. Bill, exactly. I had no desire to be molested. NONE.

  12. I love this story, Beck!

  13. The pic is up people – enjoy!!

    Miss Spoken – Your Grandma?!?

  14. I am constantly amused by the double standard inherent in stripping. A guy can barely touch a female stripper where as horny girls can put their hands all over a guy… but of course being a male stripper gives you all sorts of advantages over a woman who is often put down on her knees to fake (or for real) fellate the guy or be turned over, stripped, and dry humped.

  15. Oh yes, Aunt Becky, please please please post the pics. Just one. Really, what’s the harm? :)

  16. Dear Redhead says:

    We tell children to wear clean underwear in case they’re hit by a car.

    We should tell our daughters to shave in case of unexpected stripper. Advice for the modern age. I love it.

  17. Thank you baby jesus that no one hired a stripper for my bach party. I would have run away. Not a prude but really, ugh. Everyone else got so drunk at the party they didn’t notice that I wasn’t drinking. I was fine the next day, my friends, not so much.

  18. We got my great grandma a stripper for her 70th birthday. She wasn’t drunk either and I don’t remember her getting tea bagged … but that’s what Photoshop is for.

  19. I was lucky enough to avoid such antics from my friends since I was 7 & 1/2 months pregnant when I got married, but I imagine that would have been more uncomfortable for the stripper if they had chosen to get one.

  20. I was lucky enough to not get the whole stripper thing or bachelorette party because I was pretty much the last of my friends to get married, they all had kids that were in school by the time I tied the knot. I guess I’m a bit smarter than I thought…..ha ha ha

  21. Last Bachelorette party I had, the guy from the erotic toy’s show gave each of the bridesmaids a different lingerie set to wear. Right there. I spent almost the entire evening showing my naked butt and my barenaked breasts to 25 stranger girls, as the guy taught the advantages of a giganormous dildo by putting it near my crotch. Niiiice.

  22. Strawberrys eh? I’m going to go ahead and mark that off my list of fruits I enjoy. Barf.

  23. Aunt Becky – CP’s getting a little antsy, so let’s do this girl! I’m all about making CP happy.

  24. this story is USELESS without photos

    Dude, Aunt Becky, you cant do this to me

  25. p.s. u can upload em to photobucket and drop the link… they will delete them after awhile… but us stalkers can see, lol

  26. i MUST see photos…
    toilet plunger $5
    pumps covered in toilet water $50
    un-expected stripper $200
    Balls on your face…. priceless

  27. send ’em to sandy, OR put ’em somewhere on the web and link to ’em.

    and HURRY

  28. CP, I actually do have them. Hm. How do I get them HERE?

  29. Some things are meant to be enjoyed with copious amounts of alcohol. Being tea bagged by a stranger is one of them.